An Unexpected Teaching

Most would think that a wife would not need to be taught to love their husband. After all, is it not implied by the relationship of wife to husband that love would naturally be involved? Of course love is involved in a marriage but love the way God intended it to be is not a natural reaction that two people would necessarily have toward one another.

That a particular type of love must be taught is most likely an unexpected teaching from God. However, turning to the scriptures, we find that in fact God has decreed that love needs to be taught. In Titus 2:3-4 we read “that aged women likewise be reverent in demeanor, not slanderers nor enslaved to much wine, teachers of that which is good; that they may train the young women to love their husbands, to love their children” (Tit 2:3-4). Notice that the older women are instructed to “train the young women to love their husbands.”

Love obviously involves more than just emotion. What this “love” entails is not spelled out for us but most likely means supporting the husband in taking care of the home and his physical needs. The love that God expects a wife to have for her husband is a learned response from years spent together. It is right and good then for those who have managed several years with a spouse to share their expertise with those that have just begun a marriage.

In Christ, Steve Preston

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