“Finally, all of you, have unity of mind, sympathy, brotherly love, a tender heart, and a humble mind.”
1 Peter 3.8 ESV
The first step to avoid returning evil with evil is to develop a loving relationship in the family of faith. Peter cites five qualities in chiastic form, with brotherly love as the central element.
Am I motivated by the best intentions? Do I speak loving words? Do kindness and tenderness mark my interactions? Is my goal to understand and appreciate my brother?