There are five stages of grief: denial, anger, bargaining, depression and acceptance, according to the model developed by Elisabeth Kubler-Ross and David Kessler.. These are a part of the framework that makes up our learning to live with loss.
After the first four losses Job experienced, calamities that came from heaven and earth and all four points of the compass, his reaction was somewhat different.
The Bible said, “Then Job got up and tore his robe. He shaved his head, and then he threw himself down with his face to the ground,” (Job 1:20-21a NET).
The first thing he did was rise. He did not sit, which is what some do when they’re faced with loss.
Job tore his robe and shaved his head in mourning. These were things people did when they were convicted of sin. People of Job’s day were convinced suffering resulted from sin. Often it does, but it is possible for one to live righteously and suffer.
Instead of blaming God, Job worshipped. This showed Satan was wrong when he said, “Is it for nothing that Job fears God?” (Job 1:9 NET).
The Bible teaches that which human reasoning does not: loss can be an opportunity to develop a deeper, closer relationship with God.
It is also an opportunity for people to see Christ in us, for it is in pain people see what we truly are and that Christ really lives in us (2 Corinthians 12:9).