Rising Joy, by Vicki Matheny
In the same way husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. For no one has ever hated his own body but feeds it and takes care of it, just as Christ also does the church, for we are members of his body. For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and will be joined to his wife, and the two will become one flesh. (…) Nevertheless, each one of you must also love his own wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband. Ephesians 5.28-31, 33
The two become one. Paul has much to say to the husband in these verses. As the spiritual leader, he is ultimately responsible for the spiritual and physical welfare of his family but especially his wife. He should love his wife as his own body. A man will take care of his own body, feeding it, clothing it, and in general doing what is good for it. Since the two are one after marriage, he has that same responsibility to his wife. More importantly, he is to be the spiritual head of the family who serves under the guidance of Jesus. To be able to do this, he needs to be in the Word and sharing what he has learned with her. This love is not the emotional stars in the eyes. It is a decision to do what is best for her. The wife must respect her husband. It is not a choice. Nor is it difficult if he is faithful to the Lord. With the love and respect in place in the marriage, it will not only survive, but will bring joy to both of your lives.