Some Alternative Statements When Visiting the Seriously ill

I thought I would pass this article along for any one to have who can appreciate it. A wise sister in Christ gave me a copy of it several years ago. She made a copy of it from an article that appeared a long time ago in the Bulletin Digest. I could tell why she would have kept it near by when I first read it. I would give full credit to the original author but unfortunately the only part of his name that got copied was Virgil F. I can see that the article came from Abilene, Texas, but that’s all I can say about it.

Instead of: “I don’t want to bother you with my phone calls and visits.”

Try: “Is this a good time to visit?”

Instead of: “You’ve got a long, hard road ahead of you.”

Try: “No matter what happens, I want you to know you’re not alone.”

Instead of: “My uncle had the same thing, and he died.”

Try: “What’s going on with you today?”

Instead of: “God knows you can handle this illness or He wouldn’t have let you get it.”

Try: In times like this, do you find your faith makes a difference?”

Instead of: “Don’t take it personally, but I just don’t like being around sick people.”

Try: “Being with you is more important than my fear of hospitals.”

Instead of: “Wouldn’t it be better if your (husband/wife) stayed at work rather than spend time with you?”

Try: “Serious illness affects the family too, doesn’t it?”

Instead of: “Don’t worry about your job or the house. Everybody’s covering for you.”

Try: “The work is getting done, but you know no one can take your place.”

Instead of: “Don’t talk about dying. You’re going to outlive all of us.”

Try: “Even though it’s difficult, I’m willing to talk when you are.”

Instead of: “God has a reason for this.”

Try: “There’s a lot in life we don’t understand, isn’t there?”

Instead of: “If there’s anything I can do, let me know.”

Try: “I’m praying for you, I would also like to _______ (name specific appropriate act). What time is best for you?”

#compassion, #sickness, #wisdom