Stop lying!

Rising Joy, Vicki Matheny

Instead, be kind to one another, compassionate, forgiving one another, just as God in Christ also forgave you. Ephesians 4.32

In Ephesians 4.25-32, Paul wrote regarding several things that had to be stopped or put away. These dealt with attitudes, actions, and the tongue.

The tongue is such a small member of the body. Yet, when it is used for evil, it can destroy the strongest of relationships. We must lay aside falsehoods. Stop lying! There is no such thing as a little white lie! A lie is a lie.

Be angry and do not sin. When we are angry, we often let our mouths go off without any attempt at control. Paul wrote to not give the devil an opportunity. Watch what you say when you are angry! Control your tongue.

Paul also encouraged the Ephesians to speak only those words that would be beneficial to the one hearing them, putting away any evil, slanderous talk. Make sure that your words give grace to those who are listening!

How do you accomplish this? By being kind and compassionate to one another, you can use your tongue to build up and not to tear down. By forgiving one another, you can stem the flow of anger that can cause angry words to spew forth like hot lava.

Always remembering that you have been forgiven by God in Christ Jesus!

#risingjoy #Ephesians #anger

Pressing produces: Proverbs 30.33

“For as the churning of milk produces butter and as punching the nose produces blood, so stirring up anger produces strife.”

Proverbs 30.33

Two words are repeated three times for emphasis. “Pressing” is translated as churning, punching, and stirring up. The verb “produces” reinforces the point as well. Better to remain silent, v. 32.

Some things are unavoidable. Or, as the popular phrase puts it, one thing inevitably leads to another. The verse is a caution against provoking others and adding fuel to the fire.

#votd #anger #arguments


What does the Bible say about anger

by Douglas M. Williams, Sr.

“A soft answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger” (Proverbs 15:1).

“Cease from anger, and forsake wrath: fret not thyself in any wise to do evil” (Psalm 37:8).

“Let all bitterness, wrath, anger, clamor, and evil speaking be put away from you, with all malice. And be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as God in Christ forgave you” (Ephesians 4:31-32; Colossians 3:8).

“Be angry, and do not sin; do not let the sun go down on your wrath” (Ephesians 4:26). Continue reading

#anger, #bible-study

‘What I know:’ The arrogance of an angry youth

Three times in his opening statement, young Elihu talks about “what I know” Job 32.6, 10, 17. He could hardly wait for the three older friends of Job to stop talking. They failed to convince Job of his sin, and now he’s sure he can do it. He’s going to “explain” it to them. Continue reading

#anger, #arrogance, #elihu, #job, #youth

The brewing pot called anger

He who is slow to anger is better than the mighty, and he who rules his spirit than he who takes a city.” (Proverbs 16:22)

Anger isn’t always a bad emotion…it’s just not always good.

Family feuds, street fights and global warfare has been waged more times than one would want to count simply because water isn’t the thing that can boil-over.

Self-control is vital when it comes to anger or else the anger will control us. Many times it has been said that an individual “lost his or her temper” when we should probably say that the individual “lost his or her temperance”. Great strength (and wisdom) is far and above displayed in the ability to control our self in place of the ability to control someone else. Perhaps this is why the saying, “he who angers you controls you” is so pertinent when it comes to Proverbs 16:22. When anger gets the best of us, we think we’re going to get the best of someone else, when in reality they may have already got from us exactly what they wanted.

A controlled anger makes us stronger than the mighty and greater than the conqueror – and that’s why a controlled anger leads to better things being poured into the cup we call our heart.

“Be angry, and do not sin”: do not let the sun go down on your wrath, nor give place to the devil.” (Ephesians 4:26-27)

#anger, #emotions, #temper, #temperance

It was a family fight but this one…

It was a family fight, but this one took a wrong turn. Husband and wife were at it in a hot dispute of some sort, when 38-year-old Julian Burnett got all he could take and drove his red dump truck into the side of the house in Orange County, Florida. The crash not only ended the fight but hastened police intervention and Burnett was charged with aggravated assault. There is a proverb worth remembering: a hot head never makes for cool thinking. The easiest thing in the world is to lose your temper and do something stupid. The difficult thing is to be disciplined, to talk calmly and to act responsibly. It may be difficult, but the results are a lot easier to live with. This is Just A Minute.

#anger, #discipline, #hot-head, #just-a-minute

Burr under your saddle?

Be angry, and do not sin”: do not let the sun go down on your wrath,” (Ephesians 4:26)

The burrs under our saddle tend to stay there longer than they have to. They aren’t necessarily hard to remove, but…old fashioned stubbornness, right?

The longer a burr stays put, the more likely our anger is going to get the best of us. Much akin to the little teapot who can’t stand the pressure anymore – it’s going to let us know about it.

But all burr and teapot analogies aside, the apostle Paul ties together anger and sin and putting off until tomorrow what should be done today as a warning for a very good reason; and if you’re human then you know what that reason is.

Anger in and of itself is not wrong, but when that anger gets in and controls us and our plans then the anger has become a danger to our spirit which God desires to contain meekness, gentleness, kindness and holiness. You know, that stuff that anger tends to despise.

So the next time we get a burr under our saddle let us remember that the burr isn’t only effecting us, it’s affecting the way we treat our horse and the other people who are riding with us, and it’ll only get worse if we ride with it through the night. So maybe, just maybe, it’s worth the time it takes to get down off our horse to do a little house…err, make that saddle cleaning.

#anger, #spiritual-analogies

You don't want to make a church going…

You don’t want to make a church-going secretary mad, at least not Bristow, Virginia Mona Shaw. Shaw, who was 75 at the time, and her husband, Don, had an appointment for a Comcast technician to install the all-in-one phone, internet and cable service. When the technician came two days late, he left without finishing and then two days later all their service was cut. They went to the local office and waited and waited for hours before being told the manager had left for the day. She returned with a hammer and vented her frustration by attacking the office computer. She was fined $350 and barred from all Comcast offices for a year. She says, “A few have called me a hero but most say I’m just an old lady who got mad. I had a hissy fit.” Count me among the latter. You never win hearts by losing your head. This is Just A Minute.

#anger, #just-a-minute, #temper


(#183) The Proverbs of Solomon 27:4-Don’t Cross Flooding Water

Since God Created humans, only God can provide specific understanding of human behavior. God gave Solomon Divine Wisdom (1 Kings Chapters 3 and 10) to explain what and why behavior is as it is, and Proverbs 10:1-24:34 are randomly written, as if they were Solomon’s judgments about individual cases brought to him, or simply God-given explanations about life. New Testament passages may help see the continuation of Wisdom offered through Jesus Christ.

Proverbs 27:4: “Wrath is cruel and anger a torrent, But who is able to stand before jealousy?”

These are emotions that can get out of control, and therefore are dangerous for humans. “Anger, wrath, malice” are forbidden to Christians. “Anger” is irritation boiling up; “wrath” is anger carried over the next day(s); “malice” is the intent to harm the one who has provoked the anger (Colossians 3:8). We can get “angry” but must not lose control and “sin” (Ephesians 4:26); “the wrath of man does not produce the righteousness of God” (James 1:20); “jealousy” is wounded trust which may never be recovered, and is understandable in a husband whose wife commits adultery (Proverbs 6:32-35).

God is a “jealous God” (Exodus 20:4-6; Deuteronomy 6:14-19), because He expects those who agree to His covenant to be faithful in keeping their part of it. God is never out of control, but His “wrath” is against all who “do not obey the gospel of our Lord Jesus Christ” (1 Thessalonians 5:9-10; 2 Thessalonians 1:7-9).

These are emotions in humans we should strive never to provoke, and “A soft answer turns away wrath, But a harsh word stirs up anger” (Proverbs 15:1). Followers of Jesus Christ know He said: “Blessed are the peacemakers, For they shall be called sons of God” (Matthew 5:9). These are “emotions” of God that are avoided by our obedience to Him. “And He said to them, ‘Go into all the world and preach the gospel to every creature. He who believes and is baptized will be saved; but he who does not believe will be condemned’” (Mark 16:15-16). Why cross a flooding water of emotions, now or forever?

All Scriptures and comments are based upon the New King James Version, unless otherwise noted.

#anger, #bible-study, #god, #jealous, #obedience, #proverbs, #wrath


(#137) The Proverbs of Solomon 18:19-Can You Forgive Your Brother?

Since God Created humans, only God can provide specific understanding of human behavior. God gave Solomon Divine Wisdom (1 Kings Chapters 3 and 10) to explain what and why behavior is as it is, and Proverbs 10:1-24:34 are randomly written, as if they were Solomon’s judgments about individual cases brought to him, or simply God-given explanations about life. New Testament passages may help see the continuation of Wisdom offered through Jesus Christ.

Proverbs 18:19: “A brother offended is harder to win than a strong city, And contentions are like the bars of a castle.”

Contentious statements that divide brethren are “like the bars of a castle,” that is, they defensively fortify brothers from each other. Enemies can be converted and changed more easily than a relative, and it seems the nearer the relationship, the more difficult it is to effect that change! The first brothers, Cain and Abel, were separated by Cain’s anger that his brother obeyed what was right (Genesis 4:1-12; Hebrews 11:4) but Cain was evil (1 John 3:11-12). Jacob and Esau were separated by Esau’s profaning his birthright (inheritance, Genesis 25:29-34), Jacob’s deception to receive that birthright (Genesis 27:1-46), and Esau’s bitterness and hatred for his brother. They were separated for years before they could reconcile (Genesis 33:1-15), but reconcile they did! Since the Jews come from Jacob, and the so-called “Palestinians” come from Esau, the modern-day Middle East should read the Bible and reconcile their differences as their progenitors did! Brethren in the flesh can be meaner, more violent, and destructive to each other than their enemies who are not related!

Spiritual members in a church of Christ can become as bitter as Cain, and hateful as Esau, toward their brethren. The reason is the same, they have developed “an evil heart of unbelief” and departed from the living God (Hebrews 3:12). Their contentious words become “bars” to keep them inside their castle of ugliness. “Do not marvel, my brethren, if the world hates you. We know that we have passed from death to life, because we love the brethren. He who does not love his brother abides in death. Whoever hates his brother is a murderer, and you know that no murderer has eternal life abiding in him” (1 John 3:13-15). This brings eternal damnation upon the contentious brother. No amount of attendances, giving, singing, or prayers can disguise the real intent of wrong brethren. “We love Him because He first loved us. If someone says, ‘I love God,’ and hates his brother, he is a liar; for he who does not love his brother whom he has seen, how can he love God whom he has not seen? And this commandment we have from Him: that he who loves God must love his brother also” (1 John 4:19-21).

The message of Jesus Christ, to His churches of Christ, is that of “reconciliation.” “Now all things are of God, who has reconciled us to Himself through Jesus Christ, and has given us the ministry of reconciliation, that is, that God was in Christ reconciling the world to Himself, not imputing their trespasses to them, and has committed to us the word of reconciliation” (2 Corinthians 5:18-19).

All Scriptures and comments are based upon the New King James Version, unless otherwise noted.

#anger, #bible-study, #bitterness, #brethren, #church-of-christ, #contentious, #family, #hate, #jesus-christ, #jews, #love, #palestinians, #proverbs


(#124) The Proverbs of Solomon 17:12-Which is Worse: A Savage Bear or A Stupid Fool?

Since God Created humans, only God can provide specific understanding of human behavior. God gave Solomon Divine Wisdom (1 Kings Chapters 3 and 10) to explain what and why behavior is as it is, and Proverbs 10:1-24:34 are randomly written, as if they were Solomon’s judgments about individual cases brought to him, or simply God-given explanations about life. New Testament passages may help see the continuation of Wisdom offered through Jesus Christ.

Proverbs 17:12: “Let a man meet a bear robbed of her cubs, Rather than a fool in his folly.”

Never, ever, come between a mama bear and her cubs! Instant outrage, savage aggression, and violent attack is sure to be the swift, certain, and deadly outcome. The explosion of fury could not be more clearly illustrated than by this image. King David’s friend, Hushai, described David’s fierceness in war to David’s son with this parallel: “you know your father and his men, that they are mighty men, and they are enraged in their minds, like a bear robbed of her cubs in the field” (2 Samuel 17:8). When Israel forgot God, He promised, “I will meet them like a bear deprived of her cubs” (Hosea 13:8). With this simple depiction, there is no doubt about the ferocity being described.

Never, ever, expect normal attitude from “a fool in his folly,” for all rules are off! First, “a fool” is anyone who doesn’t follow God’s Word; and, secondly, “folly” is any behavior that doesn’t conform to God’s Wisdom! “Every prudent man acts with knowledge, But a fool lays open his folly” (Proverbs 13:16). Folly is “the foolishness of fools” (Proverbs 14:24); and so “he who is impulsive exalts folly” (Proverbs 14:29). And a fool never learns better from his “folly,” for “As a dog returns to his own vomit, So a fool repeats his folly” (Proverbs 26:11).  Expect a “fool” to erupt in “folly” with passion associated with outbursts of anger! Because one man raped their sister, Simeon and Levi murdered and plundered a whole city (Genesis 34:24-29,30); because the wise men did not return and tell him where the young child Jesus was, King Herod was “exceedingly angry” and murdered all boys in Bethlehem under the age of two (Matthew 2:16); while he was ignorant of Jesus Christ, Saul of Tarsus was “still breathing threats and murder against the disciples of the Lord” (Acts 9:1). Every mother who rips apart her son or daughter; every father who abruptly punishes his children; every husband or wife who verbally, or otherwise, abuses his/her spouse; every intoxicated user of drugs or alcohol; and every short-fused person is, or will be, acting the “fool.” “An angry man stirs up strife, And a furious man abounds in transgression” (Proverbs 29:22).

Never, ever, stand between “a fool” and his/her “folly,” lest we are torn apart by sin!

All Scriptures and comments are based upon the New King James Version,unless otherwise noted.

#abuse, #aggression, #anger, #attack, #bible-study, #fool, #mama-bear, #outrage, #practical-lessons, #proverbs

When his father ordered his son to clean…

When his father ordered his son to clean up his room, the angry son screamed at Dad and threw a plate of food across the dinner table at him. That might not be so unusual except the son is 28-year-old Andrew Mizsak, who lives rent-free with his parents in the Cleveland suburb of Bedford, Ohio, and is a member of the local School Board. The proverb declares: Do not be quick to anger, for anger lodges in the bosom of fools. Control of one’s temper is a discipline of character, but it seems both discipline and character are in short supply in these latter days. Better a cool head and a clean room than a hot head and a spilt plate. This is Just-A-Minute

#anger, #discipline, #just-a-minute

The Path to Survival and Success

I sometimes parody Robert Frost’s old poem by saying, “Two paths diverged in a wood, and I, I blazed a new trail between them.” One should never let tunnel vision limit their achievements. Just because three options present themselves does not exclude the possibility of a fourth. Creatively pondering what other paths one may take may just prompt recognitions of a new trail.

Sometimes, however, our trails reach a dead end. A deep chasm looms ahead or a wall blocks our progress. What shall we do? One possibility is to turn around and go back to our starting point. We also might choose to give up. When some people reach this situation in their lives, they attempt suicide. Almost always, other options exist than surrendering. One may try to climb the wall or build a bridge across the canyon. If a wall, we may look to the right and left to see if passageways exist in those directions. We may even be able to build a door in the wall. Seriously, even when it seems that there are none, options usually exist in life. They may not be our first choice; they may require giving up a long-cherished goal. Sometimes the new path leads in a better direction.

Psalm 37 gives several insights to surviving and thriving when it seems opposition cannot be overcome or that we have run out of options. These include:

“Do not fret” (verses 1 and 8).
“Trust in the Lord and do good” (verse 2).
“Commit your way to the Lord” (includes prayer, verse 3).
“Be still before the Lord and wait patiently for him”(verse 7).
“Refrain from anger” (verse 8).
Keep the word of God in your heart (verse 31).
Follow good role models (verse 37)
“Take refuge” in God (verse 40).

Maintaining calm and trusting reliable counselors (to include God) greatly increase odds for survival and success. Restraining anger and panic is critical. Fear breeds failure. Having a sustained pattern of behavior, especially in scripture study, prayer, and association with other believers, helps but one also needs to learn to wait and to build flexibility. Rigidity paralyzes people when unexpected situations arise. The message of Psalm 37 is that even when situations seem to require new solutions, some basic truths and practices will sustain us. When multiple options exist in life, God’s word will help us navigate the best trail to our destination.

#anger, #church-of-christ, #faith, #fear, #god, #hope, #poetry, #prayer, #robert-frost, #role-models, #scripture-study, #suicidal-ideation, #trust, #tunnel-vision

Some Can’t — No, Some Won’t Be Pleased

  • Some show anger toward God because he allows the freewill of men and women which results in mankind being able to make evil decisions. If God were to control us like robots and not allow freewill, the anger would still be shown on the basis of never being able to make our own choices!
  • Some show anger toward God and accuse him of disinterest, impotence and a lack of love because of the injustice he allows to happen in this life. When such are told that God will enact his justice in the life to come, the anger then turns to the accusation of unfairness, bullying and a lack of love!
  • Some show anger toward God when evil people are blessed with earthly gain. When God moves to punish the wicked in earthly ways the accusation then turns to God not showing the mercy he said he would!
  • Some show anger toward God because of his standard of righteousness and the burden of sin. Tell them about the righteousness fulfilled and of the burdens lifted at Calvary and the anger is directed towards God’s plan of atoning sacrifice through the innocence of Jesus!

The truth of the matter is that some will not be pleased with God because they do not want to be pleased with God. They are angry with God whether the “quarter lands on heads” or “whether the quarter lands on tails.” They not only disdain the acknowledgement of God – they disdain any acknowledgement of him! Beyond that, not only do they disdain his knowledge, they disdain any knowledge of him! Anger, wrath, self-righteousness, rebellion and idolatry is so bound up in their heart, eyes and ears that no matter what they feel, see or hear it will be what they want to feel, see or hear. When the evils of mankind’s lies, smacks, punches, whips, nails and taunts at the cross cannot be perceived alongside the goodness of God’s redeeming work then no amount of truth, touching, holding back, drying tears, healing wounds or words of encouragement from the throne of God will change a heart that so determines that the fault of evil rests upon the character of God’s heart and not upon the lack of character within the heart of mankind.

Some people refuse to be pleased by God no matter what is done by God.

But what comparison may I make of this generation? It is like children seated in the market-places, crying out to one another, We made music for you and you did not take part in the dance; we gave cries of sorrow and you made no signs of grief. For John came, taking no food or drink, and they say, He has an evil spirit. The Son of man has come feasting, and they say, See, a lover of food and wine, a friend of tax-farmers and sinners! And wisdom is judged to be right by her works.” (Matthew 11:16-19 – BBE)

#anger, #atheism, #judgment, #righteousness

Anger is one letter away from Danger

Almighty God asked his completely frustrated prophet if he had a right to be so angry in Jonah 4:4 when Nineveh repented.

What a question! Not because it was an angry Jonah who was asked this, but because we all need to be asked this from time to time.

Yes, there can be room in the heart of a Christian for righteous anger (Mark 3:5), but often times (at least I’ll speak for myself) this room can be taken up with the wrath of man that doesn’t care for, follow or consider the righteousness of God that properly directs the anger (James 1:20).

The next time the “little teapot” feels like shouting we would all do well to ask ourselves the question that God asked Jonah…and give the right answer before that anger turns into danger!

He who is slow to anger is better than the mighty, And he who rules his spirit than he who takes a city.” (Proverbs 16:32 – NKJV)

#anger, #emotions, #jonah