I read a story this morning on AOL news about a survey that “revealed” a difference in the way that men and women perceive beauty. According to the story, which originated in the UK as a psychology experiment, a certain number of women were given makeup to apply “as if they were about to go out” and then a “before and after” picture was taken and later shown to individual men and women who were asked to pick their “top 3” pictures based on these three criteria:
- One that they personally thought was most attractive
- One they thought most women would see as most attractive
- One they thought most men would see as most attractive
The results according to the survey? All of the men picked pictures of women who were wearing less makeup, and not a single woman picked a picture of the participants who were wearing all of their makeup.
I for one am not surprised. I have never been a fan of lip balm (it tastes nasty) much less the idea of a woman turning her face into a canvas that can only be seen her when she looks into a mirror.
Is it because I’m “old-fashioned” as I’m sure some would say? Is it because I’m “misogynistic” as I’m sure some would say? Is it because I’m “a control freak” as I’m sure some would say? Is it because I’m “cheap” as I’m sure some would say? My answer to all of those would be, no! Well, maybe yes to the cheap part (the stuff is far from free), but absolutely not even close when it comes to the rest.
I for one believe, and I really wish you could hear my tone of voice when I say this, that women shouldn’t have to makeup their face to be something that it’s not to impress people who aren’t already impressed with who they are. Why would anyone want to impress someone else with something that is not a true representation of who they are? The makeup must come off, and if “they” can only appreciate a beauty that must be bought and applied then what exactly are they appreciating about you?
Am I treading into dangerous territory ladies? At least with my wife I don’t believe that I am. I have told her on numerous occasions that I love the way she looks without makeup ten times more than the way she looks with it, and I haven’t had to use any makeup to cover up a black eye yet.
I mean what woman doesn’t want to hear that she’s beautiful just the way the she is?! Am I really that far off base here?
Now before I leave what some may consider to be “no man’s land” let me say this: I understand that some men like makeup, and I don’t believe that makeup in and of itself is sinful, so if makeup can be used in a way that still promotes and proclaims modesty then by all means use it if it makes you and your husband happy.
But please, and this is especially for any younger ladies who may be reading, don’t fall into the trap of thinking that wearing makeup automatically makes you more valuable or attractive in the sight of men, or God, because it is simply not true.
“in like manner also, that the women adorn themselves in modest apparel, with propriety and moderation, not with braided hair or gold or pearls or costly clothing, but, which is proper for women professing godliness, with good works.” (1 Timothy 2:9-10)