Discipling a child who does wrong

A public school in Portland, Oregon has garnered the ire of some parents due to the discipline that was meted out on their children through a corrective action based program aimed at bad behavior.

So why the ire? It’s not because their child was given extra homework or because they were suspended in any way or because they were “assaulted” physically with a paddle. The school had obviously decided that these punishments don’t deter or correct the bad behavior. The ire came because this particular punishment “humiliated” their child. And what was this “humiliating” punishment that crossed the line? Let me provided you with a quote from the story:

The “community service” program, called off at the César Chávez K through 8 school while the Portland Public Schools district investigates, reportedly punished misbehaving kids for unruliness (such as throwing food) by having them do chores that included picking up trash from hallways and paper towels from bathroom floors.

That sounds dreadful! How could something like that happen in America? This is the 21st century! And while I’m at it, will someone cue the soft and solemn sound of a violin please?

I’m no advocate of child abuse. I can’t be more staunchly opposed to it! I believe an individual should be punished to the extent of the law when an avenue of punishment creates unreasonable or irreversible damage to a child. But my friends, the only thing that will last beyond the day when it comes to the punishment of picking up trash in hallways and cleaning bathrooms is the lesson that was meant to be learned. If a little humiliation is what it takes for a child to learn not to throw food, or to disrespect a teacher or a fellow classmate then a little humiliation might be one of the best things that has ever happened to that child.

A culture that fails to see the necessity of disciplining a child’s bad and disrespectful behavior is a culture that fails to see the adult that an uncorrected child will grow to become. And in case you haven’t noticed, it’s a lot easier to correct a child that still needs to learn a lesson than it is an adult who refuses to acknowledge the fact that what they have done is wrong. When you think about it like that, I guess humility isn’t such a bad avenue of correction for a child after all, huh?

Foolishness is bound in the heart of a child; but the rod of correction shall drive it far from him.” (Proverbs 22:15)

#child-discipline, #children, #humility, #news, #parenting

What kids really want and need

I have today off! Meaning that I have no prep work to do for tomorrow. This is something that only happens for this preacher every couple of months, so when it does I usually try to make sure that family time gets marked down for the entire slot on Saturday. This being the case, I asked my 3-year-old yesterday what she wanted to do today. Her answer was, “Just play games with you.”

Children want their parents; they really do (at least the ones a few years south of teenage-hood do…and let’s face it, most of the teenagers still want the same, they just don’t know how to say it anymore).

Not only do children want their parents, children need their parents (especially those teenagers) in their life too. It’s as essential to their development as an adult as a well-balanced breakfast, exercise and education. It’s called structure. Believe it or not children need someone in their life that they can honor! Because when there is no one in their life to honor, dishonor usually follows their life.

Science is still continuing to do studies that show how important both parents are to children, but the Bible closed the book on the subject a long, long time ago…parents need to be involved in their child’s life because that’s what they want, and that’s what they need.

Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right. “Honor your father and mother,” which is the first commandment with promise: “that it may be well with you and you may live long on the earth.”” (Ephesians 6:1-3)

#children, #parenting

January Spiritual Sword

By Hugh Fulford — The January 2015 issue of The Spiritual Sword is now in the mail. In my judgment this is another “landmark” issue of this great journal, dealing with an exceedingly timely theme, “Can We Save Our Children?” I am continually amazed at how Alan Highers, editor, always seems to come up with a “cutting edge” theme for every issue of this widely-read quarterly publication. Continue reading

#children, #parenting, #society

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(#187) The Proverbs of Solomon 27:20-Enough Is Enough

Since God Created humans, only God can provide specific understanding of human behavior. God gave Solomon Divine Wisdom (1 Kings Chapters 3 and 10) to explain what and why behavior is as it is, and Proverbs 10:1-24:34 are randomly written, as if they were Solomon’s judgments about individual cases brought to him, or simply God-given explanations about life. New Testament passages may help see the continuation of Wisdom offered through Jesus Christ.

Proverbs 27:20: “Hell and Destruction are never full; So the eyes of man are never satisfied.”

The 19th James Bond movie title seems to express where this Proverb is going, “The World Is Not Enough” (1999). What the eye can see, the heart can covet, and covetousness is an always-open, never-filled hole which is easily dug in people’s hearts. Jesus taught this when He said: “‘Take heed and beware of covetousness, for one’s life does not consist in the abundance of the things he possesses.’ Then He spoke a parable to them, saying: ‘The ground of a certain rich man yielded plentifully. And he thought within himself, saying, “What shall I do, since I have no room to store my crops?” So he said, “I will do this: I will pull down my barns and build greater, and there I will store all my crops and my goods. And I will say to my soul, ‘Soul, you have many goods laid up for many years; take your ease; eat, drink, and be merry.’” But God said to him, ‘Fool! This night your soul will be required of you; then whose will those things be which you have provided?’ So is he who lays up treasure for himself, and is not rich toward God. Then He said to His disciples, ‘Therefore I say to you, do not worry about your life, what you will eat; nor about the body, what you will put on. Life is more than food, and the body is more than clothing’” (Luke 12:15-23). Life is wasted when it is devoted to “more, more, and more!” If profit is not shared, but only invested in self, there is little satisfaction in that business! The hope for change drives the industries of: politics, fashion, amusements, advertising, education.

Covetousness is being stirred up when: poorer people see what richer people have and want it for themselves without paying the price for it; when companies continue to raise profit levels for itself without an increase in quality, quantity, or service of their goods; government wants for itself more of what its citizens have earned; husbands and wives want other partners than God permits in a marriage; children are given things instead of love, and they want to start their independence with all the things their parents have worked for all their lives!

Insatiable, dissatisfied, discontented, unhappy, and voracious, are some of the words that describe this attitude of heart. “Hell” (a.k.a. “the grave”) is never full, for there is always room for one more to die and be buried. “Destruction” (or the ruination of life) always claims another victim. “Now godliness with contentment is great gain. For we brought nothing into this world, and it is certain we can carry nothing out. And having food and clothing, with these we shall be content. But those who desire to be rich fall into temptation and a snare, and into many foolish and harmful lusts which drown men in destruction and perdition. For the love of money is a root of all kinds of evil, for which some have strayed from the faith in their greediness, and pierced themselves through with many sorrows” (1 Timothy 6:6-10). If “the love of money” is our driving force in life, there is nothing but sorrow ahead! Doing right is the satisfying reward God gives to all who obey Him (Proverbs 19:23).

The Book of Proverbs also says: “The leech has two daughters-Give and Give! There are three things that are never satisfied, Four never say, ‘Enough!’: The grave, The barren womb, The earth that is not satisfied with water-And the fire never says, ‘Enough!’” (Proverbs 30:15-16). Each of these are fit pictures of the perpetual dissatisfaction in a covetous heart! Indeed “the proud man… does not stay at home. Because he enlarges his desire as hell, And he is like death, and cannot be satisfied, He gathers to himself all nations And heaps up for himself all peoples” (Habakkuk 2:5).

Let your conduct be without covetousness; be content with such things as you have. For He Himself has said, ‘I will never leave you nor forsake you’” (Hebrews 13:5).

When will you think “enough is enough?”

All Scriptures and comments are based upon the New King James Version, unless otherwise noted.

#bible-study, #children, #covetousness, #desire, #dissatisfied, #family, #god, #insatiable, #love-of-money, #marriage, #obedience, #profits, #proverbs, #wisdom, #work

Boko Haram

When girls should play with dolls,
They’re nabbed and forced to marry,
To change their deity’s name—
A burden no child should carry.

JRMatheny

#boko-haram, #children, #christian-poetry

April 2014 Issue of Christian Worker

Here’s a link to the latest PDF issue of the Christian Worker.

Here are the topics that you will find:

  • What Church Membership Means (Don Prather)
  • Why I’m Rearing My children WITH Religion (Sam Willcut)
  • Some Do’s and Don’ts for Preachers (Carl B. Garner)
  • Young People and the Guarding of Their Influence (Roger Jackson)
  • Raising the Banner of Error (Kevin Cauley)
  • “What is RIGHT with It?” (Pat McIntosh)
  • “I Do Not Preach on That” (Rob L. Whitacre)
  • An Unnecessary Exercise (Dan Winkler)
  • All of Our Divisions (Don Prather)
  • The Parable of the Hammer

Christian Worker is an edification effort of the Southwest church of Christ in Austin, Texas.

You can subscribe to the email version of the Christian Worker paper by clicking on the publications link on their website and then following the given instructions…or by clicking on the link provided here in The Fellowship Room under the “Friends” category to your right.

Copyright © 2014 Southwest church of Christ, All rights reserved.

#children, #christian-worker, #church-membership, #division-within-the-body-of-christ, #doctrine, #error, #good-influence, #judging-others, #parenting, #pdf, #preaching

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(#167) The Proverbs of Solomon 24:11-12-What Baby’s Blood Is On Your Hands?

Since God Created humans, only God can provide specific understanding of human behavior. God gave Solomon Divine Wisdom (1 Kings Chapters 3 and 10) to explain what and why behavior is as it is, and Proverbs 10:1-24:34 are randomly written, as if they were Solomon’s judgments about individual cases brought to him, or simply God-given explanations about life. New Testament passages may help see the continuation of Wisdom offered through Jesus Christ.

Proverbs 24:11-12: “Deliver those who are drawn toward death, And hold back those stumbling to the slaughter. If you say, ‘Surely we did not know this,’ Does not He who weighs the hearts consider it? He who keeps your soul, does He not know it? And will He not render to each man according to his deeds?”

This proverb does not contradict “capital punishment,” for God has decreed to all mankind that murderers should die: “Whoever sheds man’s blood, By man his blood shall be shed; For in the image of God He made man” (Genesis 9:6). Those who bear false witness in a court of law, once discovered, should receive the penalty they thought would go to the one they witnessed against (Deuteronomy 19:16-20), that “those who remain shall hear and fear, and hereafter they shall not again commit such evil among you.” Today, since “the authorities that exist are appointed by God,” then they “should not bear the sword in vain,” rather “he is God’s minister, an avenger to execute wrath on him who practices evil” (Romans 13:1-4).

When this “sword” is used against those who are doing “good,” the rest of us must “deliver” them! When government justifies the slaughter of innocent babies with “abortion,” it is against God! Thus, when someone is unjustly accused and condemned to death, our spirits should be stirred and actions aroused to “deliver” them from the hands of those who are about to kill the innocent. We cannot justify ourselves by saying “Surely, we did not know this,” for God knows whether or not we knew, and He will hold everyone accountable for what they knew but did not do. We cannot pull the blanket of “ignorance” over our heart and hide from God, for “I, the LORD, search the heart, I test the mind, Even to give every man according to his ways, According to the fruit of his doings” (Jeremiah 17:10; Revelation 2:23).

No one knows about tomorrow, but God, so we must act today. “Come now, you who say, ‘Today or tomorrow we will go to such and such a city, spend a year there, buy and sell, and make a profit;’ whereas you do not know what will happen tomorrow. For what is your life? It is even a vapor that appears for a little time and then vanishes away. Instead you ought to say, ‘If the Lord wills, we shall live and do this or that.’ But now you boast in your arrogance. All such boasting is evil. Therefore, to him who knows to do good and does not do it, to him it is sin” (James 4:13-17).

God will hold accountable every Supreme Court Justice, President, Congressman/woman, and citizen who has mandated, supported, encouraged, advised, and consented to this slaughter of innocents. They, like King Herod (Matthew 2:16-21), will face their Maker with babies’ blood on their souls, unless they turn to the blood of the baby of Bethlehem whom God spared (Acts 2:38)! Christians cannot let those who govern think “they did not know this,” but by teaching, voting, discussing, and praying, try to bring moral sense back into their decision(s).

All Scriptures and comments are based upon the New King James Version, unless otherwise noted.

#abortion, #babies, #bible-study, #capitol-punishment, #children, #innocent, #jesus-christ, #proverbs, #slaughter, #sword

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(#159) The Proverbs of Solomon 22:6-Well Begun, Half Done

Since God Created humans, only God can provide specific understanding of human behavior. God gave Solomon Divine Wisdom (1 Kings Chapters 3 and 10) to explain what and why behavior is as it is, and Proverbs 10:1-24:34 are randomly written, as if they were Solomon’s judgments about individual cases brought to him, or simply God-given explanations about life. New Testament passages may help see the continuation of Wisdom offered through Jesus Christ.

Proverbs 22:6: “Train up a child in the way he should go, And when he is old he will not depart from it.”

Children are not computers or robots to be programmed with perfection. God created humans with free will to make choices about their life’s activities, so when Adam and Eve in the Garden of Eden had chosen to violate God’s Rules for them He asked them: “Who told you that you were naked? Have you eaten from the tree of which I commanded you that you should not eat?” (Genesis 3:11). They had obviously chosen a different decision which the serpent had offered.

Parents’ duties are summarized thusly: “You shall teach them diligently to your children, and shall talk of them when you sit in your house, when you walk by the way, when you lie down, and when you rise up” (Deuteronomy 6:7). It is up to both parents, husband and wife, to keep God’s Word before their child, and not leave it up to grandparents, video games, school teachers, neighbors, or TV! This training should start “from childhood” (literally, “as a baby,” 2 Timothy 3:15); from mother and grandmother (2 Timothy 1:5); under direct guidance of the father (Ephesians 6:4). The tragedy of single-parenting is that this burden often becomes too great for one to adequately, evenly achieve.

Parents’ must individualize God’s instructions to each child, and begin them on the right way (“he should go”). Teach the child what is expected, fill each child with a hungering and thirsting for God’s Word. “Correct your son, and he will give you rest; Yes, he will give delight to your soul” (Proverbs 29:17). The joy of parenting is seeing God’s Word being internalized by each child. The successful parent has placed their child’s hand in God’s Hand. God knows that even as adults, we should be like the Apostle Paul, who wrote: “Not that I have already attained, or am already perfected; but I press on, that I may lay hold of that for which Christ Jesus has also laid hold of me. Brethren, I do not count myself to have apprehended; but one thing I do, forgetting those things which are behind and reaching forward to those things which are ahead, I press toward the goal for the prize of the upward call of God in Christ Jesus” (Philippians 3:12-14). No child will mechanically make all the right decisions, but sin and forgiveness of sin is what life is about, and God “is not willing that any should perish, but that all should come to repentance” (2 Peter 3:9).

Parents’ must realize that God does not hold them responsible for their children’s adult decisions! Even in God’s Law through Moses this was true: “Fathers shall not be put to death for their children, nor shall the children be put to death for their fathers; a person shall be put to death for his own sin” (Deuteronomy 24:16). David phrased it right in Psalm 34:11: “Come, you children, listen to me; I will teach you the fear of the LORD.”

Parents are only responsible for how they start their children in life, not for the end result of their lives!

All Scriptures and comments are based upon the New King James Version, unless otherwise noted.

#bible-study, #children, #family, #fathers, #god, #practical-lessons, #proverbs, #single-parenting, #train-up-a-child, #wisdom

Jesus isn’t allowed in school? What’s new?!

There’s a news story out there on the web about a 6-year-old who was told by his teacher that “Jesus is not allowed in school” after bringing some candy canes for his classmates with a religiously themed note attached. Now I personally understand that the teacher was trying to use words that a 6-year-old could understand, but I also understand that explaining something in its simplicity does not do away with the truth, that being that the school is not interested in having Jesus around.

Schools can’t have Jesus around, huh? So what’s hanging around schools since Jesus isn’t allowed anymore? Contraceptives without the parent’s knowledge? Sure. Telling kids how to have sex instead of educating about sex? Sure. Teachers having sex with kids? Sure. Kids dressing like they’re ready for the late night streets and the beach? Sure. Kids relentlessly physically and mentally torturing other kids? Sure. Kids buying and selling drugs? Sure. Kids disrespecting and threatening their teachers? Sure. Kids taking the lives of others kids? Unfortunately and sadly, sure.

Why wouldn’t you encourage a 6-year-old boy who will soon be a 16-year-old young man to bring someone to school who can teach the other kids to love and respect their parents, to love and respect their self, to love and respect their fellow students, and to love and respect their teacher? We wouldn’t want kids growing up to do that would we?!

Look at the major problems that schools are dealing with today – large dropout rates, graduated ignorance, out-of-wedlock children having children, drugs, gangs and school shootings. Why didn’t this stuff happen 40 to 50 years ago anywhere close to the way it happens today? Is it because you couldn’t drop out of school? Nope. Is it because there weren’t any kids not interested in learning? Nope. Is it because kids weren’t capable of having sex? Nope. Is it because there was no such thing as a group of punks? Nope. Is it because there were no drugs? Nope. Is it because there were no guns? Nope.

One of the biggest contributing factors may just be that the last generation of adults were more interested in telling Jesus to stay home instead of coming to school with the kids resulting in a generation that doesn’t know about the Lord, because of a generation that didn’t want to know about him, thus resulting in a generation of kids who are being given an education for their physical side but are being deprived and starved of an education for the side that helps to temper the physical one.

So Jesus isn’t allowed in school? Where’s that getting our culture and our children?

And also all that generation were gathered unto their fathers: and there arose another generation after them, which knew not the Lord, nor yet the works which he had done for Israel.” (Judges 2:10)

#children, #culture, #education, #jesus, #kids, #morality, #news, #school, #school-system

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(#95) The Proverbs of Solomon 15:17-One Ingredient Makes All Food Better

Since God Created humans, only God can provide specific understanding of human behavior. God gave Solomon Divine Wisdom (1 Kings Chapters 3 and 10) to explain what and why behavior is as it is, and Proverbs 10:1-24:34 are randomly written, as if they were Solomon’s judgments about individual cases brought to him, or simply God-given explanations about life. New Testament passages may help see the continuation of Wisdom offered through Jesus Christ.

Proverbs 15:17: “Better is a dinner of herbs where love is, Than a fatted calf with hatred.”

Huge houses, heavily-laden tables, fancy cars, loads of recreation, none of these can take the place of “love” within the family! “Love” makes a little a lot! People who are raised in a loving home frequently comment, “We didn’t know we were poor.” Riches and poverty are states of mind, more than something in the hand! There is much more to life than working to have things, so “Do not overwork to be rich; Because of your own understanding, cease!” (Proverbs 23:4). Solomon later will write there is, “A time to love” (Ecclesiastes 3:8), and we must love in this life, for when we die, our earthly “love” perishes with us, so we must “Go, eat your bread with joy, And drink your wine with a merry heart; For God has already accepted your works. Let your garments always be white, And let your head lack no oil. Live joyfully with the wife whom you love all the days of your vain life which He has given you under the sun, all your days of vanity; for that is your portion in life, and in the labor which you perform under the sun” (Ecclesiastes 9:7-9). Without a loving home, life is empty, shallow, and vain! With a loving home, it matters little what possessions we may not have. After life’s experiences had tumbled in, Solomon wrote: “Better a handful with quietness Than both hands full, together with toil and grasping for the wind” (Ecclesiastes 4:6).

No proverb says it better than Proverbs 15:17, but other proverbs emphasize this truth: “Better is a little with righteousness, Than vast revenues without justice” (Proverbs 16:8); “He who covers a transgression seeks love, But he who repeats a matter separates friends” (Proverbs 17:9); “Open rebuke is better Than love carefully concealed” (Proverbs 27:5); “A faithful man will abound with blessings, But he who hastens to be rich will not go unpunished” (Proverbs 28:20).

Jesus clearly taught this Wisdom when He said, “Take heed and beware of covetousness, for one’s life does not consist in the abundance of the things he possesses” (Luke 12:15); and the Holy Spirit echoed it through Paul, “Now godliness with contentment is great gain. For we brought nothing into this world, and it is certain we can carry nothing out. And having food and clothing, with these we shall be content” (1 Timothy 6:6-8).

Job #1 is to make our homes full of love, designed to build up each member with truth, honesty, and forgiveness. Paul’s commands surely apply within the home: “But now you yourselves are to put off all these: anger, wrath, malice, blasphemy, filthy language out of your mouth” (Colossians 3:8); “Let your speech always be with grace, seasoned with salt, that you may know how you ought to answer each one” (Colossians 4:6). No one who loves their child will say the horrible things we hear said in public. Truly “above all things have fervent love for one another, for “love will cover a multitude of sins” (1 Peter 4:8).  How are your meal-times?

All Scriptures and comments are based upon the New King James Version, unless otherwise noted.

#bible-study, #children, #family, #home, #little, #love, #poverty, #practical-lessons, #proverbs, #riches, #wisdom, #work

Power Wheels vs. Power Heels

A couple of weeks ago my wife and I bought our daughter a brand-new Toyota FJ Cruiser Power Wheels with a two-speed transmission, two-wheel drive, decals of the latest Disney “royalties”, shiney wheels, with a top-speed of 5 mph and some mpg’s that blows my truck out the water. Of course it runs on an electric battery that may not even make a mile, but still. And to top it off we only paid half price because the store had to make room for next year’s floor model.

When we finally got everything together and ready to go she was thrilled and ready to hit the road 10 feet at a time. She still doesn’t have the whole “steering-thing” down yet, but thankfully, for the community’s sake and our own, she still has several more years to master that part. But out in here in the country with our wide open spaces there was no traffic jam to get in her way.

Yesterday we were outside playing with her new set of wheels when all of a sudden she spotted her wagon. So she hit the brakes hopped out of the ole’ Toyota and hopped into the ole’ lug and said, “Come on, daddy” and you know what that means. For the next 20 minutes I spent my time pulling her around in a old-fashioned one speed transmission, no-wheel drive, no decal covered hood or door, plain-Jane wheeled wagon with a top speed of however fast I walk…but that’s she wanted.

The ole’ power heels beat out the ole’ power wheels because my daughter, like most little kids, is more interested in her dad than her stuff. All the bells and whistles made way for the rumbling of wheels in the gravel and little tracks in the grass.

It saddens me because there are so many children who have everything they could ever want but they don’t have everything that they will ever need because they have parents who never make time for them. And I understand that some parents have to focus on quality time more so than on quantity of time because of circumstances out of their control; but the reality is that many children in the American culture have parents who are more willing to try to buy the love of their child than they are spending their time with them to express their love in action.

Parents, love your children with your time, for the time you spend on them will bring a greater return than any financial investment you make in their life. At least that’s my perspective as someone who used to be a kid.

I would say more but my daughter is hollering for me and I took the day off so I could spend some time with my family.

And you, fathers, do not provoke your children to wrath, but bring them up in the training and admonition of the Lord.” (Ephesians 6:4 – NKJV)

#children, #love, #parenting, #time

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(#74) The Proverbs of Solomon 14:1-Home-wreckers Need Not Apply!

Since God Created humans, only God can provide specific understanding of human behavior. God gave Solomon Divine Wisdom (1 Kings Chapters 3 and 10) to explain what and why behavior is as it is, and Proverbs 10:1-24:34 are randomly written, as if they were Solomon’s judgments about individual cases brought to him, or simply God-given explanations about life. New Testament passages may help see the continuation of Wisdom offered through Jesus Christ.

Proverbs 14:1: “The wise woman builds her house, But the foolish pulls it down with her hands.”

“Through wisdom a house is built, And by understanding it is established” (Proverbs 24:3). It takes a wise woman to build her house (not talking about the building, but the life in it). Truly, “He who finds a wife finds a good thing, And obtains favor from the LORD” (Proverbs 18:22). Finding a good wife means knowing her family, and this cannot be done over the Internet! Jesus gave insight into home-life when He said a “house divided against itself will not stand” (Matthew 12:25).

The “foolish” woman destroys her own house by being:

1. Foolish, that is, ignoring or challenging God’s rules for living right. Every good marriage involves 3: the husband, the wife, and God (Colossians 3:16-21)!

2. Contentious (“dissing,” chiding, scolding, fussy, fretful), a tyrant by tantrums.

“Better to dwell in a corner of a housetop, Than in a house shared with a contentious woman” (Proverbs 21:9); “Better to dwell in the wilderness, Than with a contentious and angry woman” (Proverbs 21:19); “It is better to dwell in a corner of a housetop, Than in a house shared with a contentious woman” (Proverbs 25:24); “A continual dripping on a very rainy day And a contentious woman are alike; Whoever restrains her restrains the wind, And grasps oil with his right hand” (Proverbs 27:15-16). There is no relief from a leaky roof “on a very rainy day,” and so a contentious woman can literally drive her family up the wall to the attic, or out the door into “the wilderness.” She is as impossible to deal with as “the wind,” or the fragrant odor of “oil” (perfume) once it’s in the hand. She has turned against her mate who should be her support, and her children who would unconditionally love her. The home should be a refuge, not a hunting ground!

3. Selfishly Independent, that is, she must be willing to uphold her place in the home. Too many, it seems, are like young widows, not ready to settle down into being a wife and mother. “But refuse the younger widows; for when they have begun to grow wanton against Christ, they desire to marry, having condemnation because they have cast off their first faith. And besides they learn to be idle, wandering about from house to house, and not only idle but also gossips and busybodies, saying things which they ought not” (1 Timothy 5:11-13). Some mothers dress and act like they are still in the “singles scene,” looking for a mate, not like they have taken themselves “off the market” because of responsibilities at home (1 Timothy 5:14).

Some women disrespect God’s Word by not marrying, not being a good wife, not being a proper mother, or by making her own home-life miserable!

All Scriptures and comments are based upon the New King James Version, unless otherwise noted.

#attic, #bible-study, #busybodies, #children, #contentious, #family, #foolish-woman, #gossips, #housekeeping, #jesus-christ, #leaky-roof, #marriage, #practical-lessons, #proverbs, #wilderness, #wisdom, #wise-woman

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(#73) The Proverbs of Solomon 13:24-It Doesn’t Take A Village To Raise A Child Who Has Both Parents!

Since God Created humans, only God can provide specific understanding of human behavior. God gave Solomon Divine Wisdom (1 Kings Chapters 3 and 10) to explain what and why behavior is as it is, and Proverbs 10:1-24:34 are randomly written, as if they were Solomon’s judgments about individual cases brought to him, or simply God-given explanations about life. New Testament passages may help see the continuation of Wisdom offered through Jesus Christ.

Proverbs 13:24: “He who spares his rod hates his son, But he who loves him disciplines him promptly.”

The old “spare the rod, spoil the child” is truthful but not a quotation of Scripture. No amount of beatings can ever replace the effect of parental love, understanding, patience, and instruction. Children are to “obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right” (Ephesians 6:1), but fathers are specifically commanded “do not provoke your children to wrath, but bring them up in the training and admonition of the Lord” (Ephesians 6:4). Fathers must “bring them up,” not beat them down! Discipline includes instruction and enforcement of what is “right,” not dictatorial and tyrannical outbursts arbitrarily enforced with a “rod!” THIS PROVERB GIVES ABSOLUTELY NO PERMISSION TO ABUSE CHILDREN! Listen to the other proverbs on the subject: “Chasten your son while there is hope, And do not set your heart on his destruction” (Proverbs 19:18); “Foolishness is bound up in the heart of a child; The rod of correction will drive it far from him” (Proverbs 22:15); “Do not withhold correction from a child, For if you beat him with a rod, he will not die” (Proverbs 23:13); “The rod and rebuke give wisdom, But a child left to himself brings shame to his mother” (Proverbs 29:15); “Correct your son, and he will give you rest; Yes, he will give delight to your soul” (Proverbs 29:17). “The rod” is the last line of discipline to be applied (not the first or only line), but children must be reminded that there is a limit placed on their actions, beyond which they must not go in respect for parental authority. There is a time limit on good parental guidance, and that is “while there is hope,” or while the child is formative. It is “the rod and rebuke” that “give wisdom,” not just “the rod” without explanation and corrective instruction, but not “rebuke” without “the rod.” All the “rod of correction” is designed to do is sober up the child’s attitude and focus on the seriousness of the parent’s instruction, basically, “wipe that smile off your face!” Unfortunately, in this society filled with divorce and remarriage, custody battles, sexual relations without marriage commitment, a child is “left to himself.” The mother or father who thinks the child can handle things all alone is self-deceived and has abdicated the greatest authority on earth: nurturing a soul. They will give account on the Day of Judgment. Every child raised without proper discipline is a child raised without proper love, for discipline indicates loving care. The “father,” specifically, should be the obedience school for a child.

Every male who sires a child without a marriage commitment to its mother is: (1) profaning god’s sacredness of life; (2) disrespecting the mother of a life; (3) ignoring the God-given responsibility to properly instruct and guide the child’s life; (4) creating an illegitimate child without love (Hebrews 12:5-11); (5) and will be held accountable on the day of judgment for each and every soul he has neglected! It still requires a married couple (male and female) to properly raise every child.

All Scriptures and comments are based upon the New King James Version, unless otherwise noted.

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Parents, Put Your Foot Down

Read a story yesterday about a mom who punished her 11-year-old daughter for “twerking” at a school dance in which the school itself did nothing about. And some people think the preacher has no reason to still talk about the spiritual dangers of dancing to young people???

I for one was glad to actually read about a mother in the news that was trying to actually instill some self-respect into her daughter. I don’t know anything about the woman’s spiritual condition, but what I do know is that she obviously has some kind parental radar that’s actually turned on!

Parents need to put their foot down every once in a while when it comes to their kids, and it doesn’t need to stop as long as they are living under your roof. That’s right, your child needs to know who’s paying the bills, who’s buying the food, and who’s in charge of everything from their media diet, to the clothes they wear and right down to body that wears them until the baby bird leaves the nest.

I’m not saying kids shouldn’t have any freedom of expression – what I’m saying is that when they fail to show necessary discretion then it’s time for the parent to reserve the right of censorship, guidance and discipline!

If a parent refuses to put their foot down when it’s needed then the result will be a child that walks all over the parent. And if any parent thinks they’re doing their child a favor by being their friend instead of their parent or by not being proactive and reactive to the bad decisions they make, then they’re doing their child a disservice on multiple levels.

And parents, please, please, please don’t fall into the lame trap and so-called excuse that says, “Well, I did it when I was a kid so I can’t say anything about it.”

Just because you made a mistake doesn’t mean you’re not allowed to learn from that mistake or that you’re not obligated to try to instill some wiser wisdom learned from those mistakes into others. I just used a double, yes, even a triple negative in the previous sentence, but that doesn’t mean I can’t tell my daughter that it’s improper English to do so! It’s on me if I fail to warn my daughter about the dangers and stupidity of my past mistakes – and it’s on me if I stand by and allow her to intentionally make the same decisions because of some supposed hypocrisy accusation from her or anyone else. A person who calls that hypocrisy has no idea about what the word actually means!

Parents put your foot down as you raise up your child!

Give your heart to teaching, and your ears to the words of knowledge. Do not keep back training from the child: for even if you give him blows with the rod, it will not be death to him. Give him blows with the rod, and keep his soul safe from the underworld. My son, if your heart becomes wise, I, even I, will be glad in heart; And my thoughts in me will be full of joy when your lips say right things. Have no envy of sinners in your heart, but keep in the fear of the Lord all through the day; For without doubt there is a future, and your hope will not be cut off. Give ear, my son, and be wise, guiding your heart in the right way. Do not be among those who give themselves to wine-drinking, or among those who make themselves full with meat: For those who take delight in drink and feasting will come to be in need; and through love of sleep a man will be poorly clothed. Give ear to your father whose child you are, and do not keep honour from your mother when she is old. Get for yourself that which is true, and do not let it go for money; get wisdom and teaching and good sense.” (Proverbs 23:12-23 – BBE)

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Smile, Smile, Smile and Smile for the Camera

Sometimes kids try to pass along a message in their own way…I guess my daughter wants me to smile more. Hey, better here than on the couch!

Smile for the Camera

No doubt about it: children are a gift from the Lord; the fruit of the womb is a divine reward.” (Psalm 127:3-CEB)

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