Read a story yesterday about a mom who punished her 11-year-old daughter for “twerking” at a school dance in which the school itself did nothing about. And some people think the preacher has no reason to still talk about the spiritual dangers of dancing to young people???
I for one was glad to actually read about a mother in the news that was trying to actually instill some self-respect into her daughter. I don’t know anything about the woman’s spiritual condition, but what I do know is that she obviously has some kind parental radar that’s actually turned on!
Parents need to put their foot down every once in a while when it comes to their kids, and it doesn’t need to stop as long as they are living under your roof. That’s right, your child needs to know who’s paying the bills, who’s buying the food, and who’s in charge of everything from their media diet, to the clothes they wear and right down to body that wears them until the baby bird leaves the nest.
I’m not saying kids shouldn’t have any freedom of expression – what I’m saying is that when they fail to show necessary discretion then it’s time for the parent to reserve the right of censorship, guidance and discipline!
If a parent refuses to put their foot down when it’s needed then the result will be a child that walks all over the parent. And if any parent thinks they’re doing their child a favor by being their friend instead of their parent or by not being proactive and reactive to the bad decisions they make, then they’re doing their child a disservice on multiple levels.
And parents, please, please, please don’t fall into the lame trap and so-called excuse that says, “Well, I did it when I was a kid so I can’t say anything about it.”
Just because you made a mistake doesn’t mean you’re not allowed to learn from that mistake or that you’re not obligated to try to instill some wiser wisdom learned from those mistakes into others. I just used a double, yes, even a triple negative in the previous sentence, but that doesn’t mean I can’t tell my daughter that it’s improper English to do so! It’s on me if I fail to warn my daughter about the dangers and stupidity of my past mistakes – and it’s on me if I stand by and allow her to intentionally make the same decisions because of some supposed hypocrisy accusation from her or anyone else. A person who calls that hypocrisy has no idea about what the word actually means!
Parents put your foot down as you raise up your child!
“Give your heart to teaching, and your ears to the words of knowledge. Do not keep back training from the child: for even if you give him blows with the rod, it will not be death to him. Give him blows with the rod, and keep his soul safe from the underworld. My son, if your heart becomes wise, I, even I, will be glad in heart; And my thoughts in me will be full of joy when your lips say right things. Have no envy of sinners in your heart, but keep in the fear of the Lord all through the day; For without doubt there is a future, and your hope will not be cut off. Give ear, my son, and be wise, guiding your heart in the right way. Do not be among those who give themselves to wine-drinking, or among those who make themselves full with meat: For those who take delight in drink and feasting will come to be in need; and through love of sleep a man will be poorly clothed. Give ear to your father whose child you are, and do not keep honour from your mother when she is old. Get for yourself that which is true, and do not let it go for money; get wisdom and teaching and good sense.” (Proverbs 23:12-23 – BBE)