“What is causing the quarrels and fights among you? Don’t they come from the evil desires at war within you?”
James 4.1 NLT
James follows the subjects of the tongue and worldly wisdom with that of conflict.
Why does internal conflict produce conflict between people?
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Marital conflict is a fact of life. Disagreement of one degree or another is sure to come. I once had a lady say, “We’ve been married 40 years and have never had a cross word.” I don’t trust a person like that. I figure if they lie about that, they’ll lie about other things too. Some marriages have occasional skirmishes, others have all-out-war. One man referred to his wife as “The War Department”. I’ve stood at the Southern tip of Illinois, and have watched the great Ohio and Mississippi rivers converge. Where they come together there is a lot of turbulence, but 20 miles downstream the two have become one. When two people marry, it takes a while to blend two wills into one. Conflict is sure to happen. The question is how to handle it? Is it resolved? or Is it kept and nursed until it explodes some day? Paul said, Be ye angry (that is express it) and sin not (that is control it) and let not the sun go down on your wrath (bury it). Express it, control it, and bury it. . This is “Just-a-Minute” with Ed Boggess
Can a person understand peace without understanding conflict? They can no more understand it than they can appreciate it. Peace with God does not come from ignoring the problem of sin. Peace with God comes from confronting the problem and finding the way of reconciliation.
“Much more then, having now been justified by His blood, we shall be saved from wrath through Him. For if when we were enemies we were reconciled to God through the death of His Son, much more, having been reconciled, we shall be saved by His life. And not only that, but we also rejoice in God through our Lord Jesus Christ, through whom we have now received the reconciliation.” (Romans 5:9-11)
“For it pleased the Father that in [Jesus] all the fullness should dwell, and by Him to reconcile all things to Himself, by Him, whether things on earth or things in heaven, having made peace through the blood of His cross. And you, who once were alienated and enemies in your mind by wicked works, yet now He has reconciled in the body of His flesh through death, to present you holy, and blameless, and above reproach in His sight—if indeed you continue in the faith, grounded and steadfast, and are not moved away from the hope of the gospel which you heard….” (Colossians 1:19-23)
Peace with God can only be found in one way; the hope of reconciliation with God comes only through Jesus. Is it not true that the most important peace-sign the world has ever seen came in the shape of a cross? It is if we understand the conflict. It is when we know who has won the war!
A fight I regretted? Too many conflicts to enumerate. None of them resolved anything and nothing of value was accomplished. Through the years, I’ve learned to adhere to the biblical principle found in Matthew 5:25. If we’ll learn to make application of that principle, most conflicts can be resolved before they escalate into more severe conflicts. Also, the use of diplomacy is another tool we can use to resolve human conflicts.
Did you ever get into a fight you later regretted? By fight is meant disagreement, discussion, conflict or altercation. You could include a physical scuffle or a verbal debate. Why was it a cause of regret?
Maybe your story will help others of us to think twice before getting into a similar situation.
Fighting and quarreling are old responses to human differences. Or they’re often provoked by envy and jealousy.
Proverbs 20:3 says, “It is an honor for a person to cease from strife, but every fool quarrels” (NET).