What are some ways a father can provoke their child to wrath?

Last week’s Gospel Advocate Foundations course (Adult Bible Study) discussed Ephesians 6:1-9.

This section of scripture includes the admonition to fathers which says,

“… fathers, do not provoke your children to wrath, but bring them up in the training and admonition of the Lord.” (Ephesians 6:4 NKJV)

After asking the provided question in the booklet for this verse, the class teacher followed up with his own question. I believe his question was/is a very important one. He asked, Continue reading

#discipline, #fathers, #parenting

It was a family fight but this one…

It was a family fight, but this one took a wrong turn. Husband and wife were at it in a hot dispute of some sort, when 38-year-old Julian Burnett got all he could take and drove his red dump truck into the side of the house in Orange County, Florida. The crash not only ended the fight but hastened police intervention and Burnett was charged with aggravated assault. There is a proverb worth remembering: a hot head never makes for cool thinking. The easiest thing in the world is to lose your temper and do something stupid. The difficult thing is to be disciplined, to talk calmly and to act responsibly. It may be difficult, but the results are a lot easier to live with. This is Just A Minute.

#anger, #discipline, #hot-head, #just-a-minute

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(#143) The Proverbs of Solomon 19:27-Don’t Miss A Word!

Since God Created humans, only God can provide specific understanding of human behavior. God gave Solomon Divine Wisdom (1 Kings Chapters 3 and 10) to explain what and why behavior is as it is, and Proverbs 10:1-24:34 are randomly written, as if they were Solomon’s judgments about individual cases brought to him, or simply God-given explanations about life. New Testament passages may help see the continuation of Wisdom offered through Jesus Christ.

Proverbs 19:27: “Cease listening to instruction, my son, And you will stray from the words of knowledge.”

The way to be lost is to not listen to directions. The way to forget “the words of knowledge” is to quit listening. There is discipline in listening, and there is no learning without it. This has already been stated: “Listen to counsel and receive instruction, That you may be wise in your latter days” (Proverbs 19:20).

Just because some people quit listening doesn’t mean the sermon is over. “And having been perfected, He became the author of eternal salvation to all who obey Him, called by God as High Priest ‘according to the order of Melchizedek,’ of whom we have much to say, and hard to explain, since you have become dull of hearing. For though by this time you ought to be teachers, you need someone to teach you again the first principles of the oracles of God; and you have come to need milk and not solid food. For everyone who partakes only of milk is unskilled in the word of righteousness, for he is a babe. But solid food belongs to those who are of full age, that is, those who by reason of use have their senses exercised to discern both good and evil” (Hebrews 5:9-14). Bible truths need to be learned, and it is not the Bible or the sermon that needs shortening, but more often, there are some in the audience who need to grow in understanding!

Jesus Christ used parables, not to disguise spiritual truth, but to give “milk-drinkers” something to understand until they could handle “meat” of the Word of God. “Therefore I speak to them in parables, because seeing they do not see, and hearing they do not hear, nor do they understand. And in them the prophecy of Isaiah is fulfilled, which says: ‘Hearing you will hear and shall not understand, And seeing you will see and not perceive; For the hearts of this people have grown dull. Their ears are hard of hearing, And their eyes they have closed, Lest they should see with their eyes and hear with their ears, Lest they should understand with their hearts and turn, So that I should heal them’” (Matthew 13:13-15).

It is difficult enough to lead the disinterested to study the word of God (2 Timothy 2:15), but there many who make the path to faith even more difficult, even impossible. Jesus condemned such people in His day: “But woe to you, scribes and Pharisees, hypocrites! For you shut up the kingdom of heaven against men; for you neither go in yourselves, nor do you allow those who are entering to go in” (Matthew 23:13); “Woe to you lawyers! For you have taken away the key of knowledge. You did not enter in yourselves, and those who were entering in you hindered” (Luke 11:52).

“Why do you not understand My speech? Because you are not able to listen to My word” (John 8:43). When people are children of the Devil (John 8:44), they hear him, but they don’t want to know (“understand”) the manner of Jesus’ teaching, therefore, they “are not able to listen” to what He taught! No Holy Spirit intervention needed here, but the sinner must desire to know Jesus Christ, as Paul’s first recorded sermon indicated: “Men and brethren, sons of the family of Abraham, and those among you who fear God, to you the word of this salvation has been sent. For those who dwell in Jerusalem, and their rulers, because they did not know Him, nor even the voices of the Prophets which are read every Sabbath, have fulfilled them in condemning Him” (Acts 13:26-27). The people who crucified Jesus Christ were guilty of the same attitude toward truth as everyone today who has not obeyed the Gospel (Mark 16:15-16). Don’t let this be your undoing!

All Scriptures and comments are based upon the New King James Version, unless otherwise noted.

#bible-study, #discipline, #knowledge, #listening, #proverbs, #truth, #understanding, #wisdom

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(#123) The Proverbs of Solomon 17:10-Experience Hurts – Wisdom Doesn’t

Since God Created humans, only God can provide specific understanding of human behavior. God gave Solomon Divine Wisdom (1 Kings Chapters 3 and 10) to explain what and why behavior is as it is, and Proverbs 10:1-24:34 are randomly written, as if they were Solomon’s judgments about individual cases brought to him, or simply God-given explanations about life. New Testament passages may help see the continuation of Wisdom offered through Jesus Christ.

Proverbs 17:10: “Rebuke is more effective for a wise man Than a hundred blows on a fool.”

The “wise” will take the “rebuke” to heart, while “a hundred blows” only hurt the outside of “a fool.” No one can beat some sense into one who doesn’t want to learn! When David sinned, the Prophet said, “You are the man,” and David said, “I have sinned against the LORD” (2 Samuel 12:1-7, 13-14). After Peter’s denial of Jesus, “the Lord turned and looked at Peter. And Peter remembered the word of the Lord, how He had said to him, ‘Before the rooster crows, you will deny Me three times.’ So Peter went out and wept bitterly” (Luke 22:61-62). The “wise” will need a word or a look to learn better, so discipline should be aimed at teaching how to focus on the lesson at hand.

In Egypt, by the end of the 7th plague, “when Pharaoh saw that the rain, the hail, and the thunder had ceased, he sinned yet more; and he hardened his heart, he and his servants. So the heart of Pharaoh was hard; neither would he let the children of Israel go, as the LORD had spoken by Moses” (Exodus 9:34-35). Pharaoh’s “hundred blows” cost him his firstborn, his people, and his army! Many people, it seems, have to learn about sin the hard way, from painful failures with: relationships, jobs, drugs, perversion, money, or church. Other proverbs describe this school of hard knocks: “Judgments are prepared for scoffers, And beatings for the backs of fools” (Proverbs 19:29); “Blows that hurt cleanse away evil, As do stripes the inner depths of the heart” (Proverbs 20:30); “But those who rebuke the wicked will have delight, And a good blessing will come upon them” (Proverbs 24:25); “Like an earring of gold and an ornament of fine gold Is a wise rebuker to an obedient ear” (Proverbs 25:12); “A whip for the horse, A bridle for the donkey, And a rod for the fool’s back” (Proverbs 26:3); “Though you grind a fool in a mortar with a pestle along with crushed grain, Yet his foolishness will not depart from him” (Proverbs 27:22); “He who is often rebuked, and hardens his neck, Will suddenly be destroyed, and that without remedy” (Proverbs 29:1). Solomon will later say, “It is better to hear the rebuke of the wise Than for a man to hear the song of fools” (Ecclesiastes 7:5). Fools may not learn from “beatings,” “blows that hurt,” “a rod,” “often rebuke,” or being ground down like a blender. A wise person would not want to stay close to those who have to learn the hard way!

Don’t go to the wrong school! “See then that you walk circumspectly, not as fools but as wise, redeeming the time, because the days are evil. Therefore do not be unwise, but understand what the will of the Lord is” (Ephesians 5:15-17).

All Scriptures and comments are based upon the New King James Version,unless otherwise noted.

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When his father ordered his son to clean…

When his father ordered his son to clean up his room, the angry son screamed at Dad and threw a plate of food across the dinner table at him. That might not be so unusual except the son is 28-year-old Andrew Mizsak, who lives rent-free with his parents in the Cleveland suburb of Bedford, Ohio, and is a member of the local School Board. The proverb declares: Do not be quick to anger, for anger lodges in the bosom of fools. Control of one’s temper is a discipline of character, but it seems both discipline and character are in short supply in these latter days. Better a cool head and a clean room than a hot head and a spilt plate. This is Just-A-Minute

#anger, #discipline, #just-a-minute

A 21 year old man in Santa Fe…

A 21-year-old man in Santa Fe, N.M., inebriated, shifted into reverse, thinking it was “park,” and fell out the driver’s door, running over himself. There is a proverb that says, “Whoever digs a pit will fall into it, and he who rolls a stone will have it roll back on him.” The meaning of the proverb is simple: too often we are the creators of our own problems. Whether it is the abuse of alcohol, prescription meds, drugs or some other addiction; there would be no problem if the subject had used a little discipline. But discipline and honor are two items that are in short supply in our modern world. But there is a wealth of self-gratification and greed. This is Just-A-Minute

#addiction, #discipline, #just-a-minute

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(#73) The Proverbs of Solomon 13:24-It Doesn’t Take A Village To Raise A Child Who Has Both Parents!

Since God Created humans, only God can provide specific understanding of human behavior. God gave Solomon Divine Wisdom (1 Kings Chapters 3 and 10) to explain what and why behavior is as it is, and Proverbs 10:1-24:34 are randomly written, as if they were Solomon’s judgments about individual cases brought to him, or simply God-given explanations about life. New Testament passages may help see the continuation of Wisdom offered through Jesus Christ.

Proverbs 13:24: “He who spares his rod hates his son, But he who loves him disciplines him promptly.”

The old “spare the rod, spoil the child” is truthful but not a quotation of Scripture. No amount of beatings can ever replace the effect of parental love, understanding, patience, and instruction. Children are to “obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right” (Ephesians 6:1), but fathers are specifically commanded “do not provoke your children to wrath, but bring them up in the training and admonition of the Lord” (Ephesians 6:4). Fathers must “bring them up,” not beat them down! Discipline includes instruction and enforcement of what is “right,” not dictatorial and tyrannical outbursts arbitrarily enforced with a “rod!” THIS PROVERB GIVES ABSOLUTELY NO PERMISSION TO ABUSE CHILDREN! Listen to the other proverbs on the subject: “Chasten your son while there is hope, And do not set your heart on his destruction” (Proverbs 19:18); “Foolishness is bound up in the heart of a child; The rod of correction will drive it far from him” (Proverbs 22:15); “Do not withhold correction from a child, For if you beat him with a rod, he will not die” (Proverbs 23:13); “The rod and rebuke give wisdom, But a child left to himself brings shame to his mother” (Proverbs 29:15); “Correct your son, and he will give you rest; Yes, he will give delight to your soul” (Proverbs 29:17). “The rod” is the last line of discipline to be applied (not the first or only line), but children must be reminded that there is a limit placed on their actions, beyond which they must not go in respect for parental authority. There is a time limit on good parental guidance, and that is “while there is hope,” or while the child is formative. It is “the rod and rebuke” that “give wisdom,” not just “the rod” without explanation and corrective instruction, but not “rebuke” without “the rod.” All the “rod of correction” is designed to do is sober up the child’s attitude and focus on the seriousness of the parent’s instruction, basically, “wipe that smile off your face!” Unfortunately, in this society filled with divorce and remarriage, custody battles, sexual relations without marriage commitment, a child is “left to himself.” The mother or father who thinks the child can handle things all alone is self-deceived and has abdicated the greatest authority on earth: nurturing a soul. They will give account on the Day of Judgment. Every child raised without proper discipline is a child raised without proper love, for discipline indicates loving care. The “father,” specifically, should be the obedience school for a child.

Every male who sires a child without a marriage commitment to its mother is: (1) profaning god’s sacredness of life; (2) disrespecting the mother of a life; (3) ignoring the God-given responsibility to properly instruct and guide the child’s life; (4) creating an illegitimate child without love (Hebrews 12:5-11); (5) and will be held accountable on the day of judgment for each and every soul he has neglected! It still requires a married couple (male and female) to properly raise every child.

All Scriptures and comments are based upon the New King James Version, unless otherwise noted.

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