God hates divorce because he loves people

God’s prophet said it plainly so long ago – the Lord hates divorce (Malachi 2:16).

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Anton Popazov and his wife Nataliya got a…

Anton Popazov and his wife, Nataliya, got a divorce. That would be hardly worth mentioning, except they are both under contract to the Moscow State Circus and their act involves Natalia shooting an apple off of Anton’s head with a crossbow. The London Times asked Anton during a traveling show in Sheffield, England, whether he was afraid. He replied, “I still trust her because Nataliya is very professional. The show must go on.” Well, I am all for the show going on, but I think I would chose to be a spectator rather than the target. Divorce is tragic wherever it happens and leaves deep wounds. God says, “I hate divorce.” I know sometimes it is simply unavoidable; but we should make every effort to make marriage work. This is Just A Minute.

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Strong Marriage – Medicine!

The subject of divorce and remarriage is very controversial in our time, but the controversy is by no means a new one. In the Sermon on the Mount Jesus picked up the hot potato subject of divorce and addressed it with direct and simple but very sobering words — “Furthermore it has been said, ‘Whoever divorces his wife, let him give her a certificate of divorce.’ But I say to you that whoever divorces his wife for any reason except sexual immorality causes her to commit adultery; and whoever marries a woman who is divorced commits adultery” (Matthew 5:31-32). Space won’t allow an in-depth analysis of this text, but Jesus’ teaching here is augmented by His further teaching later in Matthew 19:1ff. There Pharisees attempted to put Him on the defensive by asking in verse 3, “Is it lawful for a man to divorce his wife for just any reason?” As a part of His answer Jesus declared in Matthew 19: 8-9 – “Moses, because of the hardness of your hearts, permitted you to divorce your wives, but from the beginning it was not so. And I say to you, whoever divorces his wife, except for sexual immorality, and marries another, commits adultery; and whoever marries her who is divorced commits adultery.” Those are strong words about divorce and remarriage! Combined, the two passages emphatically declare only one reason God allows divorce — sexual infidelity by the marriage partner. If a divorce takes place for any other reason and then remarriage follows, all the parties involved commit adultery: the divorce-er, the divorcee, and the one the divorce-er or divorcee remarries. That’s tough marriage-medicine in a me-first world where people want a quick, easy way out of any difficulty and inconvenience that arises, including in marriage.

Jesus’ words, though not difficult to understand, have proven difficult for many in our divorce-prone, no-fault divorce world to accept, including some in the church. I have read that a friend of W. C. Fields once entered the old comedian’s room to find him reading the Bible. Fields, a self-avowed atheist, was asked what he was doing. Fields quickly shut the Book, and, apparently embarrassed, replied, “Looking for loopholes, just looking for loopholes.” Many people look, and with first one argument and then another, insist they have found a loophole that releases them from the authority of God’s law concerning marriage and divorce. The mental twists and turns people go through bring to mind something I learned from fellow-preacher and friend David Sain. In a sermon I heard David preach, he mentioned a quote people often use regarding different Bible teachings — “God said it, I believe it, and that settles it.” But Brother Sain pointed out that saying is incorrect, and went on to proclaim the truth of the matter this way: “God said it….and that settles it!” Whether or not we believe a Bible truth has zero to do with its veracity! A majority of men and women once believed the earth was flat, but that did not make it so. Some in Jesus’ day had relaxed God’s law on marriage and divorce — but Jesus never did. Marriage is sick and getting sicker in our society, and even in the church. The hope for a cure is not in diluting Jesus’ teaching. Let us, at least in the church, take and trust the strong marriage-medicine the Great Physician prescribes.

Dan Gulley – Smithville Church of Christ

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Mandatory Marriage Classes

It’s an interesting proposal although I doubt that it will make it anywhere. According to a story on the web, a ballot initiative has been introduced in the state of Colorado that, if passed, would require people to take marriage classes before they get married. With the exception of widows, and no doubt widowers, the more times a person has been married the more class hours that would be required for that person to complete in a “marriage education class” before they would be issued another license.

Although I believe it does bring some attention to a national and cultural problem, I don’t think that this proposal would fix the problem even if it passed. As with everything else in life it’s not that people don’t know what the right thing to do is – it’s that we don’t care. Despite the fact that I won’t personally marry anyone who refuses to do marriage classes I know that when a person is through with a marriage then no pre or post education will prevent it.

I think the initiative deserves an “A” for effort, but I also believe that it’s just another band-aid being placed on a wound that this nation has been ignoring for a couple of generations now; and a band-aid won’t work when antibiotics are what’s needed.

The Pharisees also came to Him, testing Him, and saying to Him, “Is it lawful for a man to divorce his wife for just any reason? And He answered and said to them, “Have you not read that He who made them at the beginning ‘made them male and female,’ and said, ‘For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh’? So then, they are no longer two but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let not man separate.”” (Matthew 19:3-6)

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What’s going on with Baby Boomers Now that…

What’s going on with Baby-Boomers? Now that they are in their 50’s and 60’s they are divorcing at double the previous rate. Gray divorces make up fully one fourth of all divorces in America. Bowling Green State University professor Susan Brown co-authored a recent report entitled “The Gray Divorce Revolution”. I’m reminded of the story of the 50th wedding anniversary celebration of an elderly couple. The husband whispered in the ear of his hard of hearing wife, “I like it all but the band.” She turned to him and shouted, “I can’t stand you either!” Young or old let us remember that marriage is a lifetime partnership made “till death do us part.” This is Just-A-Minute

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Tom and Katie Filed

Tom Cruise and Katie Holmes have filed for divorce.

Typical, you might say, for Hollywood types, except that Cruise is a walking and talking advocate of “Dianetics,” or “Scientology,” as developed by the book’s author, L. Ron Hubbard.

“USA Today” picked up on the news of the divorce and one of its reporters wrote, “As the public face of Scientology, Cruise had become the leading advocate of a spiritual and religious empire that claims it can make people more successful, capable and better at personal relations. The latest scrutiny over their divorce is now turning into a public spectacle in which Scientology stands as a major participant.”

Dianetics, or Scientology, is just plain humanism. People might believe Scientology is a recent idea, but its roots spring from long, long ago. Erasmus, a philosophic contemporary of Luther, lived and preached humanism ―man is the measure― and lived from 1466-1536.

As Dianetics proclaims the education of a person toward becoming a person in the “clear,” or a practicing Thetan, Erasmus proclaimed the education of people because, as one philosophy text says, education alone would “eventually conquer stupidity and ignorance.” Dianetics is nothing more than making man a god and educating him to understand that he is god. Dianetics is nothing more than the philosophy of Erasmus.

As “USA Today” pointed out, Scientology has suffered through the trials, lawsuits and controversies since its “creation” in 1954. But with Cruise, we have a demonstrated logical inconsistency. If Scientology claims it is the sure-fire remedy for collapsing marriages and personal relationships, then why is Cruise and Holmes, the two greatest devotees of the “religion,” divorcing?

Since Cruise and Holmes are “practicing Thetans,” why are they resolving their differences in a court of divorce law?

The truth is that Scientology is neither religion nor truth. The truth is in the Bible. The teachings of Jesus are truth. Jesus said, “You shall know the truth and the truth shall make you free,” (John 8:32 NKJV).

If you want the truth, then you want Jesus. You want his truth. You want to obey his will. Obey him today.

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John Harrison advertised in the Knoxville Journal for…

John Harrison advertised in the Knoxville Journal for a husband for his daughter. The ad said, “Needed: son-in-law. Hunting and fishing a must. Must be willing to wash dishes on hunting trips.” Harrison says his daughter was dating too many men who weren’t outdoorsy. For years many have thought that compatibility was the most important ingredient in a successful marriage. However recent studies show that commitment and communication are far more important. Commitment is the determination to make it work. And communication is the ability to understand another’s viewpoint. It is not fighting, nagging, insulting or arguing. At the root of communication is unselfishness. Real communication desires to understand what the other thinks and feels. Each should be seeking the happiness of the other. This is Just-A-Minute with Ed Boggess

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