(#74) The Proverbs of Solomon 14:1-Home-wreckers Need Not Apply!

Since God Created humans, only God can provide specific understanding of human behavior. God gave Solomon Divine Wisdom (1 Kings Chapters 3 and 10) to explain what and why behavior is as it is, and Proverbs 10:1-24:34 are randomly written, as if they were Solomon’s judgments about individual cases brought to him, or simply God-given explanations about life. New Testament passages may help see the continuation of Wisdom offered through Jesus Christ.

Proverbs 14:1: “The wise woman builds her house, But the foolish pulls it down with her hands.”

“Through wisdom a house is built, And by understanding it is established” (Proverbs 24:3). It takes a wise woman to build her house (not talking about the building, but the life in it). Truly, “He who finds a wife finds a good thing, And obtains favor from the LORD” (Proverbs 18:22). Finding a good wife means knowing her family, and this cannot be done over the Internet! Jesus gave insight into home-life when He said a “house divided against itself will not stand” (Matthew 12:25).

The “foolish” woman destroys her own house by being:

1. Foolish, that is, ignoring or challenging God’s rules for living right. Every good marriage involves 3: the husband, the wife, and God (Colossians 3:16-21)!

2. Contentious (“dissing,” chiding, scolding, fussy, fretful), a tyrant by tantrums.

“Better to dwell in a corner of a housetop, Than in a house shared with a contentious woman” (Proverbs 21:9); “Better to dwell in the wilderness, Than with a contentious and angry woman” (Proverbs 21:19); “It is better to dwell in a corner of a housetop, Than in a house shared with a contentious woman” (Proverbs 25:24); “A continual dripping on a very rainy day And a contentious woman are alike; Whoever restrains her restrains the wind, And grasps oil with his right hand” (Proverbs 27:15-16). There is no relief from a leaky roof “on a very rainy day,” and so a contentious woman can literally drive her family up the wall to the attic, or out the door into “the wilderness.” She is as impossible to deal with as “the wind,” or the fragrant odor of “oil” (perfume) once it’s in the hand. She has turned against her mate who should be her support, and her children who would unconditionally love her. The home should be a refuge, not a hunting ground!

3. Selfishly Independent, that is, she must be willing to uphold her place in the home. Too many, it seems, are like young widows, not ready to settle down into being a wife and mother. “But refuse the younger widows; for when they have begun to grow wanton against Christ, they desire to marry, having condemnation because they have cast off their first faith. And besides they learn to be idle, wandering about from house to house, and not only idle but also gossips and busybodies, saying things which they ought not” (1 Timothy 5:11-13). Some mothers dress and act like they are still in the “singles scene,” looking for a mate, not like they have taken themselves “off the market” because of responsibilities at home (1 Timothy 5:14).

Some women disrespect God’s Word by not marrying, not being a good wife, not being a proper mother, or by making her own home-life miserable!

All Scriptures and comments are based upon the New King James Version, unless otherwise noted.

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(#24) Studies in the Book of Proverbs Eight Reasons Why Listen To Reason: #6-8

#6-8 Proverbs 9:1-18

#6 Verses 1-6: She Speaks Protectively

Wisdom is pictured as having completed a perfect house, offering hospitality to all the “simple” (those who are following whatever leader speaks, in Proverbs not someone using good judgment) who will come. (1 “Seven pillars” show Divinely complete strength, (2 a sumptuous feast, (3 an invitation through trusted messengers, and (4 an appeal to the public: for the “simple” to “turn in,” and those “who lack understanding” to partake of the feast; that is, stop foolishness and follow understanding. The New Testament teaches (1 “that now the manifold wisdom of God might be made known by the church…according to the eternal purpose which He accomplished in Christ Jesus our Lord” (Ephesians 3:10-11). (2 The church of Christ is built by God’s Wisdom; offers a sumptuous feast: “I am the living bread which came down from heaven. If anyone eats of this bread, he will live forever; and the bread that I shall give is My flesh, which I shall give for the life of the world” (John 6:51); (3 an invitation through trusted messengers: “”Therefore the wisdom of God also said, ‘I will send them prophets and apostles, and some of them they will kill and persecute’” (Luke 11:49); (4 an appeal to the public: “Come to Me, all you who labor and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest. Take My yoke upon you and learn from Me, for I am gentle and lowly in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For My yoke is easy and My burden is light” (Matthew 11:28-30). Wisdom still invites from her house!

#7 Verses 7-12: She Speaks Principally

According to verses 7-8, “scorners” and a “wicked” person will only reject Wisdom and hate and hurt those who “correct.” But, given Wisdom, the “wise” will “love you,” for he will be “wiser,” and a “just man” will “increase in learning.” Jesus Christ said: “Remember the word that I said to you, ‘A servant is not greater than his master.’ If they persecuted Me, they will also persecute you. If they kept My word, they will keep yours also” (John 15:20). The “beginning of wisdom” is to develop “fear (awe, respect) of the LORD” and “understanding” is produced by “knowledge of the Holy One” (plural in the Hebrew, like Elohim, Genesis 1:1, 26-27). Following Wisdom potentially lengthens life, for it is a purely individual response to God.

#8 Verses 13-18: She Speaks Purely

Wisdom is calling out, but at the same time, so, also is “a foolish woman.” Contrasted with Wisdom’s house which offers clean, long life, the “foolish woman” calls to all who “pass by” for “the simple” (those without discernment or wisdom) to “turn in here. Her appeal is the excitement of breaking law and comfort of secrecy. She appeals to those who don’t think ahead of their individual judgment from God.

All Scriptures and comments are based upon the New King James Version, unless otherwise noted.

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