She wasn’t friendly

I wish mama had told me that everybody is not going to like me. I wish she had said everybody is not going to talk to me. I wish she had told me that everyone wouldn’t be kind to me. Somehow she missed telling me, and though I certainly am not blaming her, I had a rude awakening one day this past week.

We had taken some extra printers to donate at a thrift store for my cousin. I was standing outside the back door on the dirt ground waiting for Doug to finish signing papers and finishing the deal. This nice looking young blonde haired lady drove up and came and stood by me. She had a tiny bowl with what looked like a bank bag in her hand. She waited. I thought she might be an employee. I motioned to the door with my arm and hand and said, “Would you like to go inside?” She stepped forward, looked inside, and said, “No, I wouldn’t.” Okay. Nothing was being said so soon I looked up at the clouds and said, “That cloud looks as if it might be a rain cloud.” Nothing!!! Okay. She shifted from one foot to the other and I felt uncomfortable. Finally, when I realized Doug and the man were almost finished, I leaned forward toward him (their backs were sideways to us) and said, “Sir, there is a nice young lady waiting out here to speak with you.” “Oh, okay,” he said and turned to take her things. She turned and walked away leaving a bad impression on me. I watched to see what she was driving. A Mercedes. A white Mercedes. A white Mercedes sports coupe. I watched as she drove away and wondered what was going on in her life to make her shun me the way she did. It was hard to get it off my mind as we came home, and somehow I knew I would write about it.

She thought I was not in her league possibly, but she could have shown herself friendly. Jesus talked to the lowly, and I can hear brother Ira North’s strong voice saying loudly, “Condescend to men of low estate.” 

The Bible says if we want to have friends we must show ourselves friendly. And then there is the scripture that says, “Take heed when you think you stand, lest you fall.”

Jesus died on the cross for me. He loved me when I was not even lovable. He died for her even when she was not friendly. I forgive her for being unkind to me.

#friendliness, #kindness

My daddy was much of a man He…

My daddy was much of a man. He was strong, tough, and hard working. I enjoyed being with Daddy, and especially riding with him in his truck. I liked to watch Daddy wave to everybody he met. You see Daddy didn’t wave like some by sticking up his pointer finger or all fingers. Daddy gave those he met more than that. He saluted them. I can still see his calloused hands, hardened by his years of carpentry work, clasping the steering wheel. Daddy had both hands on the steering wheel with his right hand positioned about the two o’clock hour. When we met a car Daddy took his hand off the wheel, raised it a bit, brought it toward him about four inches, and then thrusting it outward, he saluted those we met along the way. He didn’t have to know them. Everybody that met Daddy received a salute. Daddy was friendly. It showed in his salute and in his manner of life.

It’s a good thing to be friendly. It’s good for our health. A friendly person smiles. wiki How.com had this tip on smiling: “Smiling changes people’s mood. When you’re feeling sad, smile. Your mood will become happier. Smiling tricks the body into changing your mood for the better – even if you’re faking the smile initially. Just smile every time that you are sad, and you will be healthier overall.”

The Bible talks about the importance of being friendly. Proverbs 18:24 says “A man that would have friends must show himself friendly: and there is a friend that sticketh closer than a brother.” Someone else said, “Strangers are simply friends you haven’t met.”

Jack Exum often quoted the following poem by an unknown author while preaching:

You don’t have to tell how you live each day;

You don’t have to say if you work or you play;

A tried, true barometer serves in the place–

However you live, it will show in your face.

The false, the deceit that you bear in your heart,

Will not stay inside where it first got a start;

For sinew and blood are a thin veil of lace–

What you wear in your heart, you wear in your face.

If your life is selfless, if for others you live,

For not what you get, but how much you can give;

If you live close to God in his infinite grace–

You don’t have to tell it, it shows in your face.

Daddy’s salute was his way of being friendly, his way of smiling to those he met. Oh, to see that salute one more time…

#example, #friendliness, #happiness

Poem: A Smile

Here’s a poem that’s been all over the internet for quite some time. It took me a second or two to find the author’s name because the vast majority of time credit is given to “unknown.” If you haven’t read or heard it, it’s worth the time.

A Smile

Smiling is infectious,

you catch it like the flu,

When someone smiled at me today,

I started smiling too.

I passed around the corner

and someone saw my grin

When he smiled, I realized

I’d passed it on to him.

I thought about that smile

then I realized its worth,

A single smile, just like mine

could travel round the earth.

So, if you feel a smile begin,

don’t leave it undetected

Let’s start an epidemic quick,

and get the world infected!

(written by Matthew John Fraser)

I guess there’s such a thing as a healthy infection after all 🙂

#emotions, #friendliness, #health, #heart, #poetry

Jesus teaches friendliness

NOTE: Sorry for the technical failure. Text is now in the post.

Heard a lesson last night that included a video clip of an atheist. He was commenting on the failure of Christians to evangelize. Paraphrased, he said, “If you really believe their is a heaven and a hell, how much must you hate a person to not warn them about hell? Brothers and sisters, it is a sobering question. Let’s be sure our neighbors are warned.

Hello. We are all friendly, right? I mean, I know of no one who isn’t friendly – – under certain circumstances and with certain people. Our Lord addresses this very matter in regard to friendliness and friendship in Matt. 5:43-48. Here are the common practices of many people:

  • Love your neighbor
  • Hate your enemy
  • Love those who love you
  • Greet those who greet you

If the above is the general process you follow, then, you are pretty normal. Many of us probably fall somewhere in between. We don’t hate (at least, by our definition) our enemies. We don’t love them either. We probably find it easy to return love or appreciation to those who love us. I am sure we like to think of ourselves as civil to everyone, but what about friendly? What about seeing and greeting those who may ignore us? What about “doing good” to those who don’t reciprocate?

It is easy to greet our friends with friendship and to love our family or neighbors. Jesus is trying to help us be like God. He loves the unlovable. He helps the unappreciative? He blesses the sinner. These are the goals of friendliness and friendship we are striving to attain. Jesus is saying that if we are ‘normal’ in these matters, we are worldly in our thinking. We do not want to be worldly (James 4:4; 1 Jn. 2:15).

Let’s us become Christ-like in our friendliness and in our friendship. Get out of your box to engage the folks with whom we deal, on a daily basis, in a friendly smile and some friendly small talk that might lead to an open door for the gospel.

Mike Glenn

#evangelism, #friendliness, #imitation-of-christ