Advice applicable for all

I enjoy keeping up with friends on the Internet. Facebook has been a very enjoyable experience for me. I don’t do Twitter or any of those other popular sites.

This past week I saw an excellent scripture reference come across my desk that I wanted to share with you.

Diane Stark wrote the following and titled it “Crushes.”

When my daughter had a crush on a boy, I asked her to place his name in 1 Corinthians 13:4-6.

She did. Sean is patient and kind; Sean does not envy or boast; Sean is not arrogant or rude. Sean does not insist on his own way; Sean is not irritable or resentful; Sean does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth.

She frowned. “I saw him pick on another boy in the hallway. I guess he wasn’t very kind.” She began to rethink her interest in him.

This verse has not only given my daughter greater discernment about others, but it also has helped her reflect on her own behavior. I asked my daughter to substitute her own name into that passage. Then I explained that when we become more like Jesus, we become the right type of person for someone else to like.”

I think this is excellent advice for our children, or anyone, to try. We might like to insert our own name in the scripture and see how we measure up and if we are the right type of person for someone else to like.

#christian-living, #love, #marriage


9-24-2015 Marriage is for All Times

Marriage was begun by God. “Then the rib which the LORD God had taken from man He made into a woman, and He brought her to the man. And Adam said: This is now bone of my bones And flesh of my flesh; She shall be called Woman, Because she was taken out of Man” (Genesis 2:22-23 NKJV). Before the Flood in Noah’s day, Jesus said, “they were eating and drinking, marrying and giving in marriage, until the day that Noah entered the ark” (Matthew 24:38 NKJV). “Jesus answered and said to them, ‘The sons of this age marry and are given in marriage” (Luke 20:34 NKJV). In every age, “Marriage is honorable among all, and the bed undefiled; but fornicators and adulterers God will judge” (Hebrews 13:4 NKJV). Why aren’t you married?

This is Johnny Polk, with “Words of Wisdom” brought to you by the Oneida church of Christ.

#adulterers, #fornicators, #man, #marriage, #woman


9-25-2015 Weddings Are Essential

A “wedding” is the procedure that, according to God, brings a man and a woman together, “and the two shall become one flesh.” Jesus added, “So then, they are no longer two but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let not man separate” (Matthew 19:4-6 NKJV). Jesus Wedding Parable (Matthew 22:1-14) began with: “The kingdom of heaven is like a certain king who arranged a marriage for his son, and sent out his servants to call those who were invited to the wedding; and they were not willing to come” (Matthew 22:2-3 NKJV). A “wedding” is simply a ceremony that recognizes God’s teaching and an admission that God is involved. By living together without a “wedding,” people have only refused to make “faith” a part of their commitment! Why aren’t you married?

This is Johnny Polk, with “Words of Wisdom” brought to you by the Oneida church of Christ.

#ceremony, #faith, #man-and-woman, #marriage, #wedding


8-26-2015 Women’s Liberation

Eve’s sin brought this consequence upon all women: “I will greatly multiply your sorrow and your conception; In pain you shall bring forth children; Your desire shall be for your husband, And he shall rule over you” (Genesis 3:16 NKJV). Paul endorsed this in 1 Corinthians 11:8-9, 12 NKJV: “For man is not from woman, but woman from man. Nor was man created for the woman, but woman for the man…For as woman came from man, even so man also comes through woman.” It was through women fulfilling their God-made person that, Jesus Christ, Himself came to save us, for “God sent forth His Son, born of a woman” (Galatians 4:4 NKJV). Women are saved the same as men: faith plus baptism (Galatians 3:26-29). “Women’s Liberation” is NOT from marriage or Motherhood, but from sin, in Jesus Christ.

This is Johnny Polk, with “Words of Wisdom” brought to you by the Oneida church of Christ.

#birth, #eves-sin, #marriage, #women, #womens-liberation


6-29-2015 Created Equality

Jesus Christ taught “that He who made them at the beginning ‘made them male and female,’ and said, ‘For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh’? So then, they are no longer two but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let not man separate” (Matthew 19:4-6 NKJV). In endorsing the Creation in Genesis Chapters 1 and 2, Jesus taught: (1) Creation, not Evolution, started our world; (2) God created only two sexes, “male and female;” (3) everyone born must have had a “father and mother;” (4) God only joins together “a man” and “his wife;” (5) no human law or decree has ever, or can ever change this! “Marriage” is not in the U.S. Constitution, but is in the Bible!

This is Johnny Polk, with “Words of Wisdom” brought to you by the Oneida church of Christ.

#father-and-mother, #male-and-female, #marriage, #two-sexes, #wife

Marriage Equality Day

Happy Marriage Equality Day!

We are happy to be one of the Christian denominations who blesses same-sex marriage and respects the identities of LGBT people.

Love always wins. We are thankful the Supreme Court ruled on the side of love. Blessings to all of the loving couples who can now legally affirm the love God already affirms.

There will be more posts from UCC officials and the UCC newsroom today. Until then, enjoy your Pride and marriage equality celebrations!

This tweet from the United Church of Christ (UCC) was posted today. There are some certain things to be said about it. 1) The Supreme Court of the United States (SCOTUS) having made a decision in favor of same-sex marriage is certainly NOT Christian. Thus, that which the UCC supports is not Christian either. Moreover, the fact they are self-identified as a “Christian denomination” is not something that is God-ordained. 2) Love most certainly did NOT win. Love seeks that which is best for the other person, and the perfect standard of love is only that which resides in God. God did not and does not sanction same-sex marriages (cf. 1 Corinthians 6:9-11).  3) The attribution of a man-made definition of love to God is as egregious and ignorant (unlearned) as one who as a self-identified atheist who says he believes in God!

#equality, #marriage, #same-sex, #united-church-of-christ

I understand. I really do.

I watched the Diane Sawyer interview with Bruce Jenner Friday evening on ABC’s 20/20. Surely by now most everybody knows Bruce has decided after becoming a very successful Olympic Gold Medalist, husband and father of several children, that at the age of 65 years is he going to have a sex change from a man to a woman probably in a year. He wants everybody to be understanding. I understand. I really do.

I understand that in the beginning God made man. He made Adam in His own likeness. He made him to have dominion over all the creation of the earth. (Genesis 2:7)

I understand that God saw that Adam needed a helper, a woman, and He made Eve from a rib taken from the side of Adam. Eve was a weaker vessel, but she would fulfill Adam’s needs. (Genesis 2:18-25)

I understand that God made man and woman and told them to multiply and replenish the earth. (Genesis 1:28; 9:1)

I understand that man and woman sinned by disobeying God’s plan for their lives in the beautiful Garden of Eden when Eve listened to Satan and ate of the forbidden fruit. As a result of this sin nothing was ever the same for man again. (Genesis 3:1-24)

I understand that God is perfect, He makes no mistakes. He will not take our sinful ideas and actions lightly. Punishment is promised for those who disobey Him. (2 Thessalonians 1:7-9)

I understand to disobey God, to say by our actions, “God, you made a mistake when you made me the way I am, and I’m going to correct your error,” is like spitting in the very face of God, our great Creator.

I understand to support individuals who openly disobey God is condoning their actions.

“It is a fearful thing to fall into the hands of a living God”
(Heb. 10:31).

#creation, #marriage

It’s been a long cold and gloomy winter…

It’s been a long, cold and gloomy winter. Then the groundhog saw his shadow! If I was to run across a groundhog, I think I would punch him in the nose! Vacation trips to warmer climates have increased 39% this winter. But there is something else that has increased as well. Divorce rates increase from January through March every year, and likely this year will see a substantial increase. So if there is any time to put forth an increased effort to keep the home and family together, it is right now. Have you been fussing and fighting more than usual in your home? Why not make a special effort to strengthen and renew your commitment and love? There is no rule that says showing you care is reserved for Valentine’s Day. In fact, Making every day a Valentine’s Day, a day when love and devotion is embraced, enriches my own marriage. It doesn’t require gifts. That’s commercialism trying to make a profit. It just needs some communication. Just a hug and a kiss and an “I love you” will do wonders. This is Just-A-Minute.

#just-a-minute, #long-winter, #marriage

Anton Popazov and his wife Nataliya got a…

Anton Popazov and his wife, Nataliya, got a divorce. That would be hardly worth mentioning, except they are both under contract to the Moscow State Circus and their act involves Natalia shooting an apple off of Anton’s head with a crossbow. The London Times asked Anton during a traveling show in Sheffield, England, whether he was afraid. He replied, “I still trust her because Nataliya is very professional. The show must go on.” Well, I am all for the show going on, but I think I would chose to be a spectator rather than the target. Divorce is tragic wherever it happens and leaves deep wounds. God says, “I hate divorce.” I know sometimes it is simply unavoidable; but we should make every effort to make marriage work. This is Just A Minute.

#divorce, #just-a-minute, #marriage


2-13-2015           Love Invests

 If it takes jewelry for a kiss, candy for a smile, or flowers for a hug, your marriage needs fixing. Love doesn’t come down to one day a year. Love is a commitment, for love “does not behave rudely, does not seek its own, is not provoked, thinks no evil” (1 Corinthians 13:5 NKJV). This applies to both husbands and wives! It is not just up to the man to put life into the marriage. Love is not a burden or a pain, but a consideration, for “love does no harm to a neighbor” (Romans 13:10 NKJV).  Marriage seems to be unpopular, because it is based on love, and love requires commitment and consideration. “For this is the love of God, that we keep His commandments. And His commandments are not burdensome” (1 John 5:3 NKJV).

This is Johnny Polk, with “Words of Wisdom” brought to you by the Oneida church of Christ.

#burdensome, #candy, #commitment, #consideration, #flowers, #husbands, #jewelry, #kiss, #love, #marriage, #wives

What does the Bible say about marriage?

From the desk of Douglas M. Williams, Sr. –

“And the Lord God said, ‘It is not good that man shall be alone; I will make him a helper comparable to him’…Then the rib which the Lord God had taken from man He made into a woman, and He brought her to the man…Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and they shall become one flesh” (Genesis 2:18, 22,24).

“So God created man in His own image; in the image of God He created him; male and female He created them. Then God blessed them, and God said to them, ‘Be fruitful and multiply’” (Genesis 1:27-28).

Jesus referred back to the truth of the above scriptures in His teachings (Matthew 19:3-6). Also, other Bible writers tell us the same thing (1 Corinthians 7:2; Hebrews 13:4). Paul states this truth at Ephesians 5:31, and compares marriage to Christ and the church as the church is the bride of Christ.

Not only does the Bible teach God’s design for marriage, but the majority of people through the ages, and even to this day, accept God’s plan for marriage. Not only does the Bible teach this, but it is logical as man and woman were to multiply and replenish the earth.

The Bible condemns same sex marriages (Leviticus 18:22; 20:13; Romans 1:26-27), and says those who practice sin cannot inherit the kingdom of God (1 Corinthians 6:9-10; Galatians 5:19-21). But let us hasten to say that those guilty of any sin can be forgiven as they repent and obey God’s teachings as those did in Corinth (1 Corinthians 6:11).

More and more the trend is toward immoral things, and a tolerant attitude toward what is specifically condemned in the Bible, the Word of God. Part of this may be ignorance of what the Bible teaches is right, but it seems there is a “don’t care” attitude and rebellion against known facts which the Bible teaches and most people accept.

It matters not what license or privilege may be granted by the laws of state, because God’s laws by virtue of his creating male and female takes precedence over all human laws. The Bible teaches we must obey God rather than men (Acts 5:29).

#marriage, #obedience

January 2015 Issue of Christian Worker

Here’s a link to the latest PDF issue of the Christian Worker.

Here are the topics that you will find under the issue heading of “Godly Marriages: One Brick at a Time

  • Unconditional Love (Matt Gibson)
  • Respect (Sam Willcut)
  • Trust (Kerry Clark)
  • Honesty (Andy Baker)
  • Commitment (Mel Hutzler)
  • Kindness (Jim Laws)
  • Communication (Jon O’Keefe)
  • Intimacy (Don Prather)

Christian Worker is an edification effort of the Southwest church of Christ in Austin, Texas.

You can subscribe to the email version of the Christian Worker paper by clicking on the publications link on their website and then following the given instructions…or by clicking on the link provided here in The Fellowship Room under the “Friends” category to your right.

Copyright © 2015 Southwest church of Christ, All rights reserved.

#christian-worker, #marriage, #marriage-issues


2-6-2015   Dis-orderly Life

“Let all things be done decently and in order” (1 Corinthians 14:40 NKJV). Whose “order?” God said: “Marriage is honorable among all, and the bed undefiled; but fornicators and adulterers God will judge” (Hebrews 13:4 NKJV). Those who disregard God don’t have “illegitimate” children, just “single mothers;” there’s no “marital spats,” just “domestic violence;” there’s no “parental responsibility,” just “it takes a village;” there’s no “faithfulness,” just “divorce for every cause;” there’s no “wedding ceremony,” just “living together;” there’s no “loving commitment,” just “hooking up!” The “PC” change of terms doesn’t change the fact that disregarding God only confuses and degrades morals. “Fornicators and adulterers” have illegitimate children because God’s Law has been violated! “For God is not the author of confusion but of peace, as in all the churches of the saints” (1 Corinthians 14:33 NKJV).  

This is Johnny Polk, with “Words of Wisdom” brought to you by the Oneida church of Christ.

#family, #god, #home, #illegitimate-children, #marriage, #order, #pc

Granddaddy told me…

Granddaddy Felix T. Bryant died at the age of 91 years. I was 21. Granddaddy was on his death bed in their little low income apartment. I visited them often and made sure mother got to be with them regularly. One night I was visiting my grandparents when Granddaddy said, “Be sure you read Ephesians the fifth chapter before you marry.” “I will Granddaddy,” I replied. Nothing more was said about it on that occasion. I went home, opened my Bible to Ephesians chapter 5, and read it. I made a note in my Bible that Granddaddy had asked me to read that chapter before marrying. He was a sick man. He talked out of his head from time to time. It wasn’t long until I went back to visit him again. There he was, a tall, thin man, lying on his back on his bed. I was seated at the foot of the bed. He knew I was there. He said, “I bet you haven’t read Ephesians chapter 5 yet.” I was so glad to reply, “Yes I have, Grandaddy.” And that was it.

A small comment, yet a powerful one, from the lips of a dying man. A comment that brings back the memory each time the book of Ephesians is mentioned or seen.

What did I get from this encouragement from someone I loved dearly?He knew what Ephesians 5 was all about. There was a message he wanted me to hear straight from the word of God. He could have told me, I’m certain, but he wanted me to read it straight from the inspired Word.

There’s an example in all of us, no matter what time it is, no matter what age we are, no matter where we are. We are setting and leaving our example in the minds of those we meet along life’s pathway. The Bible says “out of the abundance of the heart the mouth speaks,” and we know it to be true. Whatever is on our mind, in our hearts, it is that of which we will speak. Granddaddy knew his Bible. Many are the memories I have of him sitting on the low platform yellow rocker that was much too small for his tall, thin, frame. His legs were crossed and both basically reached the floor. Across his lap lay his open Bible. He knew the Book, but more than that He knew the Author. His heart was filled with the word of God, and therefore out of it flowed the words of life. He left me a wonderful example, and one that I have, and forever more, will carry with me, sharing it all along the way with those who will hear.

#example, #love, #marriage

Larry Young is a researcher at the National…

Larry Young is a researcher at the National Primate Research Center at Emory University in Atlanta. He studies the neurobiology that underlies pair bonding — what the world calls love. In the journal Nature in 2009, he published an article that claims “love” is the result of a biochemical chain of events. He claims that in the future people will be able to take pills to improve their love and social bonding.

But I beg to differ with Dr. Young. I suppose there is a kind of love that is based on feelings and these are undoubtedly linked to a biochemical chain of events. But that is not the love that God commands us to have toward our fellow man at all. Biblical love is a command that can be obeyed. It is a choice that we consciously make. Several months ago a wife came to our house and talked to Elaine and me. She was ready to end her marriage and divorce her husband. Why? “I don’t love him anymore!” I asked, “What does love have to do with it?” She said, “You can’t live with someone if you don’t love them, can you?” We told her “Of course, you can” and talked to her about the commitment she made to him before God and her responsibility to fulfill her vow. I challenged her to go back to him and treat him as if she loved him, to make it an experiment. She came back and talked to us again a few weeks later, and we continued to encourage her along the same lines. Then we didn’t hear anything for a few months until she posted a message on Facebook. Here is what she wrote:

“After a few months or years of being together, the euphoria fades. Your spouse’s idiosyncrasies, instead of being cute, drive you nuts. At some point, you ask, ‘Am I with the right person?’ This is when relationships break down. The key to succeeding in a relationship is not finding the right person, it’s learning to love the person you found. People blame their partners for their unhappiness and look outside for fulfillment. It comes in all shapes and sizes: infidelity, hobbies, excessive TV, abusive substances. But the key to succeeding is not finding the right person, it is learning to love the person you found. Sustaining love is not passive, you have to work on it day after day. It takes time, energy and effort. Love is NOT a mystery. There are specific things you can do with or without your partner. Just as there are physical laws of the universe, like gravity; there are laws for relationships. If you apply these, the results are predictable. Love is therefore a ‘decision’. Not just a feeling. Remember: God determines who walks into your life. It is up to you to decide who you let walk away, who you let stay and who you refuse to let GO!”

#just-a-minute, #love, #marriage, #relationships