I can’t tell you exactly how my daughter knows that her mother and I have had a few auto-accidents between the two of us (all of which, with the exception of one, were our fault and when we were practically teenagers); but one thing I can tell you for sure is that for some reason, she likes for us to tell her about them as we’re driving down the road.
I know the kiddo has seen an accident or two on the road. Maybe after she saw one of the accidents she asked if we had ever been in any.
I guess it doesn’t matter exactly why she originally asked. I guess what matters is that we chose to share our mistakes with her…after-all, she wouldn’t have known about them unless we told her (we know it wasn’t grandma or grandpa that let the cat out of the bag).
I suppose it’s important for a Christian parent to share their mistakes with his or her child. Age discretion and maturity obvious play a factor as to the timing and details.
I believe there are certain matters that should remain between ourselves and our judge. But I also believe that it’s important for a child to know why they can privately trust God’s grace by openly explaining to them why we, as parents, need to do the same thing. Think about the conversations that David and Solomon must have obviously had…or Solomon and Rehoboam when it came to relationships!
I do not give this advice in order to hand a child an excuse as to why they should be able to be free to make the same mistakes as his or her parent – to the contrary! Sharing our mistakes with our children should be done in a way to help them understand why it’s important to follow the commands of our God and their God. For our goal as a parent must not only be to help them grow from young to old as our son or daughter; our goal as a Christian parent must also be to help our children become a brother or sister in Christ.
“My son, hear the instruction of your father, and do not forsake the law of your mother; for they will be a graceful ornament on your head, and chains about your neck. My son, if sinners entice you, do not consent.” (Proverbs 1:8-10)
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