6-10-2015 Real “Child Abuse”

Jesus Christ said, “Let the little children come to Me, and do not forbid them; for of such is the kingdom of God” (Mark 10:14 NKJV). When children were brought to Jesus “He took them up in His arms, put His hands on them, and blessed them” (Mark 10:16 NKJV). If “child abuse” is doing something wrong to children, then what about parents who abuse their child’s heart and soul by setting bad examples of: drug & alcohol abuse, disregarding marriage with their dating and divorce, smoking and spitting tobacco, filthy language, and immoral television programs and movies? If “child neglect” is not doing what is right to children, then what about parents who keep their children from Jesus Christ and His Christian followers? “Remember now your Creator in the days of your youth” (Ecclesiastes 12:1 NKJV).

This is Johnny Polk, with “Words of Wisdom” brought to you by the Oneida church of Christ.

#child-abuse, #child-neglect, #children, #parents, #youth


(#191) The Proverbs of Solomon 28:24-Robbing “The Greatest Generation”

Since God Created humans, only God can provide specific understanding of human behavior. God gave Solomon Divine Wisdom (1 Kings Chapters 3 and 10) to explain what and why behavior is as it is, and Proverbs 10:1-24:34 are randomly written, as if they were Solomon’s judgments about individual cases brought to him, or simply God-given explanations about life. New Testament passages may help see the continuation of Wisdom offered through Jesus Christ.

Proverbs 28:24: “Whoever robs his father or his mother, And says, ‘It is no transgression,’ The same is companion to a destroyer.”

Respect for parents keeps civilization alive. “Honor your father and your mother, that your days may be long upon the land which the LORD your God is giving you” (Exodus 20:12) is repeated in the Law of Jesus Christ: “Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right. ‘Honor your father and mother,’ which is the first commandment with promise: ‘that it may be well with you and you may live long on the earth’” (Ephesians 6:1-3). It is this endearing quality in humanity that is the backbone of an enduring society. In addition to our fathers passing along to us “life,” they should have “corrected us,” and we should have “paid them respect” (Hebrews 12:9). But the commandment honors both father “and mother!” A mother’s womb is a person’s first safe house where God develops it (Psalm 139:13-16), and while unborn, the baby has not done “any good or evil” (Romans 9:11). The “fruit of the womb” is our inheritance from God (Psalm 127:3), and only godless, vicious people would “have no pity on the fruit of the womb” (Isaiah 13:17-18).

It’s too bad in our society, often it is honoring one or the other parent, or neither at all! Whether we break into their houses and rob their possessions, or stealing our time away from them, or letting greedy government take their earnings, when      and how do we honor our parents? Because they have lived through deprivation and destruction, they have been termed “the greatest generation.” But do they deserve our dereliction of duty to “honor” them? Not just that generation, but each generation that includes our parents deserves our “honor” and “respect.”

The Israelite Nation rejected God’s Son (John 1:11-12), and their destruction also included what they had done at home: “Now brother will betray brother to death, and a father his child; and children will rise up against parents and cause them to be put to death” (Mark 13:12). What have we done to either protect or rob our parents? No child should dishonor its parent(s) and pass it off by saying “it is no transgression”—because it is! No society can last that disrespects its parents!

All Scriptures and comments are based upon the New King James Version, unless otherwise noted.

#bible-study, #christian-living, #father, #honor, #mother, #parents, #proverbs, #respect, #unborn, #wisdom, #womb

Who is happier couples without children or parents…

Who is happier; couples without children or parents? If you ask parents in the midst of the terrible two’s or dealing with teenage rebellion, they’d probably say childless couples. But recent comprehensive studies have determined that in spite of the challenges, parents are happier than non-parents. Moreover, the study doesn’t even consider the joy of grandparents. I can think of nothing so satisfying than to have all the kids and their kids gather at our home for Thanksgiving or Christmas and to see them focusing their families on the Lord and raising their children to be Christians. I am confident that this will help insure their happiness for the future generations. This is Just-A-Minute

#happiness, #just-a-minute, #parents

A Parent’s Priority

In this month’s Christian Chronicle (March 2013) there is an interview with a NBA (National Basketball Association) player named Norris G. Cole, II. He is a member of the Lord’s church in Miami and attends services of the local congregation whenever he can.

Attending the services of the Lord’s church is important to him because it was instilled within him by his parents. His parents set the tone for all their children with regard to all activities. If an event in their early life was on Wednesday or Sunday then whoever was in charge of that event or activity understood that the parents put a priority on the Lord and not the event or activity. In other words, the child did not attend the event or activity.

I remember we instilled in our own daughters the same lesson. It was not always easy to instill this lesson, but it was one we believed in. Some decisions in life are made and experienced with regret; there is no regret, however, in choosing to be with the Lord’s people when they meet—it’s an impression that lasts much longer.

Some parents, because they don’t have the priority they need, complain that to do as Norris’ parents did would scar the child in some perceived way, maybe prevent the child from certain things within the peer group, perhaps even preventing them from achieving the highest goal. One NBA player doesn’t think so. RT

#church, #nba, #parents

Unintended Humor

Me: So, which of the 10 Commandments are we not under today as Christians?
Teenage girl: The 5th one.
Me: Are you certain?
Teenage girl: Yes, we are no longer under the Sabbath law today.
Me: I think the 5th one says something a bit different. 🙂
Exo. 20:12

#obey, #parents, #sabbath

One Proud Papa

Last night, during evening worship, my 15 month old daughter said the word “Bible” for the first time. Now, you don’t have to be a preacher for that to make you smile…but it sure doesn’t hurt.

I think we’ll work on “Nebuchadnezzar” next 🙂

Hear, O Israel: The Lord our God, the Lord is one! You shall love the Lord your God with all your heart, with all your soul, and with all your strength. “And these words which I command you today shall be in your heart. You shall teach them diligently to your children, and shall talk of them when you sit in your house, when you walk by the way, when you lie down, and when you rise up. You shall bind them as a sign on your hand, and they shall be as frontlets between your eyes. You shall write them on the doorposts of your house and on your gates.” (Deuteronomy 6:4-8)

#bible, #children, #family-life, #parents

Nudge: Why Does God Encourage Children to be in Subjection to their Parents?

It’s not really open for debate – from the 10 Commandments of Moses’s Law, to the 6th Chapter of Ephesians, to the scathing rebuke of the scribes and Pharisees concerning the personal care (or the lack thereof) for their parents and ultimately God in Mark 7, God says children must take note of their parents when it comes to writing the chapters of their life story.

So here’s the nudge: Why is this such an important issue to God, and what about honoring parents who do not care for God or for His way of life?

I’d love to hear your answers, especially to the later part since so many young people (including Christians) deal with this family situation in our culture today.

#children, #family, #nudge, #parents

Be Strong Mom and Dad

Some parents amaze me! I guess you can take that statement two ways huh?

We need parents who are willing to be a backbone for their children and not the wishbone.

We need parents who love their love children more than themselves but not more than God.

We needs parents who teach their children about hard work and not how to work hard avoiding it.

We need parents who spend time with their children instead of their child-like hobbies.

We needs parents who know how to say ‘I’m sorry’ as much as they expect to hear it from their children. Talk about having to be strong!

You don’t have to tell me how tough it is to be a parent at times! All I know is that there are times when “tough love” actually leads to tender hearts, and that the world will be a whole lot tougher on them if they’re not prepared to love God with all their heart, mind, soul and strength! That takes toughness; only the kind of toughness that comes from strong mom and dads.

Don’t give up, give in, give out or give it a second thought when it comes to making a hard decision that places morality above popularity. Give thanks for the life of your child and for the strength that God will provide to help you be strong!

#children, #family, #home, #parenting, #parents

“Proverbs Are The Piths” (12)

In Proverbs 7 Solomon returns to a topic with which he has much experience – women! The type of woman who would be looking to have a little influence with a king; yes, the type who sadly had quite a large influence on Solomon’s life. The king who began his reign with great wisdom due to his heart walked down a scary path because he ignored his own wisdom (originating from God) due to a heart that was defiled with the flattering words of foreign women. Now he pleads with his children to not make the same mistake when dealing with professional assassins!

Verses 1-5:  There’s no wonder that Solomon tells his son to keep his commandments (originating from God’s word) in his heart. After all, like Solomon had told him earlier, the heart is where the issues of life spring from! Stick close to the women who care – wisdom your sister and understanding your kinswoman. Sometimes, due to male ignorance and stupidity, it takes a woman who cares to see through another woman’s callousness.

Verses 6-9: Solomon gives an eyewitness account to the crime. The wrong place, the wrong time and the wrong person equals the wrong decision. Sounds like the common late-night scene still found today. Hasn’t someone said something about nothing new being under the sun?

Verses 10-20: The woman the young man meets is dressed to kill and an expert at her skill. Clothing can reveal as much about a person on the inside as the lack thereof does on the outside Solomon says! The wife with a house isn’t interested in being a house wife. I guess she’s more of the desperate kind. Makes one wonder about her marriage. Regardless, at the end of the day, a slaughter-house scented with roses is still a slaughter-house, and this young man is about to kiss it all goodbye!

Verses 21-27: The seductress talks the young man into a situation he can’t get out of. Like an ox to the slaughter, Solomon says, she hits her mark and he meets his maker! Solomon warns that this woman is undefeated, but she is not undefeatableThe path to victory starts in the heart! Be wise! Her house is fixed up like heaven, but it’s only a disguised hell. See through it! Solomon badly wants his children to see that illicit sex will make you exactly what the word begins with – ILL!

#adultery, #children, #fornication, #god, #parents, #proverbs-are-the-piths, #solomon, #wisdom

Who Else Would Know?

English: A little girl has her first visit to ...

English: A little girl has her first visit to the dentist. (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

My wife brought our daughter with her today to the dentist office. Since this was my daughter’s first visit to the dentist office the employees mentioned how they would have been able to tell who her father was even if they didn’t know me because she looks so much like me.

They went on to tell my wife that our daughter even holds her mouth like me. When she said this I told my wife I would have to ask them what they meant by that, to which she replied: if anyone would know how I hold my mouth it would be the dentist office!

Just another reason why I love my wife…and daughter.

Note: The little girl in the picture is not my daughter – I just thought the picture was too cute not to use 🙂

#humor, #joke, #marriage, #parenting, #parents

Be Careful What You Say

Early in my preaching career, I realized that I must be careful the way I phrase things in order to be sensitive to the needs of the audience.

For example, on Mother’s Day, I always remember that not all women can be Mothers. In our exuberance to praise Mothers we can say something that will harm the childless.

Imagine being a childless Mother who hears the preacher say that God blesses godly women with children. The obvious conclusion is that she doesn’t have children because she is a sinner. Where does Scripture say that?

We can inadvertently say things that can offend people if we do not consider the larger implications of our words.

When I prepare a power point presentation, which are largely images, I give thought to how something can be taken. In our writing we must always consider this. Sometimes, I fail and people get offended. I apologize to them. But the better path is to try to prevent it from happening in the beginning.

We cannot always know what will offend people. In an audience, there are many people’s whose lives consist of events and scars that the preacher cannot possibly know.

Naturally, we can say things that cause harm without intention. Nevertheless, we can give every consideration to what we can control, in this area.

On Facebook, I just saw a quote that is intended to praise Mothers and Grandmothers. The quote is: The Best Moms Get Promoted to Grandmas.” That is sweet but doesn’t hold a shred of evidence in the real world. Accordingly, I would caution any speaker from using it in a lesson.

Countless Mothers have children who either die, are infertile or choose not to have children. What does it accomplish to brand these women as bad mothers? How does that help spread the Gospel and help anyone get to heaven? In fact, it may impede their spirituality!

Let us be careful what we say and use our tongue and pen wisely (James 3:1-12).

#grandmothers, #mothers, #parents, #speech, #tongue, #wisdom

Your Parents Religion

Have you embraced your parent’s religion, and do you know whether or not it is right? This is a question that each of us should ask (cf. Matthew 10:34-39). We should ask it because what does truth have to fear? It has to fear nothing. If there is nothing to fear in searching for truth, after having learned the truth, why should one stay where the truth is not located? We are not speaking of where truth is located in part, but the truth in total.

Parents are a powerful influence on children. Those who are fortunate to be raised in a loving home especially have a hard time accepting anything different than what the parents have believed. However, Jesus said that if one loved parent more than Him, the ones who love parents more are not worthy of the Lord (Luke 14:26, cf. Luke 12:53). It does not matter what your parents believe (believed) or where they are at in relation to eternity. What matters is the truth. Does it matter to you? RT

#parents, #religion, #truth

The Difference In Generations

The Nudge asks, “How is your life different from that of your parents?”

My life has experienced the following which my parents did not have to experience 50-80 years ago: Continue reading

#different, #layoff, #life, #pace, #parents, #satisfaction, #work

Kids First, Marriage Later — If Ever

From NPR, comes the above article heading.

The beginning of the article states:

Quote: “Federal data from 2007 says 40 percent of births in America are to unwed mothers, a trend experts say is especially common in middle-class America. In one St. Louis community, the notion of getting married and having children — in that order — seems quaint.”

The woman in this story (Colleen Segbers) confesses that she didn’t mean to get pregnant six years ago with her daughter, Gwen.

She states:

“It was an afternoon of Budweiser beer and the hot sun,” she laughs. “It happened. It was OK.”

Brethren, it’s no laughing matter. When 40 percent of births in America are to unwed mothers, there is something terribly awry with that statistic. As members of the Lord’s church, we need to be stressing the importance of the institution of marriage, training our young men and women about the responsibility of bringing children into the world under the guidance of godly parents which make up the home.

Note the reason why the couple mentioned in this article finally married:

“After her daughter was born, Segbers did marry Gwen’s father. She loves her husband, she says, but they didn’t get married because they had a baby together or even because they were in love. They did it so she could have insurance.”

They only went through a ceremony was because she could have insurance. Is that a viable reason to get married?

No wonder immorality is rampant in our country today. May God help us to teach our young people the moral principles found in God’s word.

#article, #awry, #beer, #children, #godly, #heading, #institution, #marriage, #parents, #responsibility, #sun, #training

Kids on Facebook

If you were on Facebook and your children refused to add you as friends, what would you do? Read More

#blog, #facebook, #kids, #parents, #teens, #the-moving-word