Tips on how to reprove someone

The one who reproves another will in the end find more favor than the one who flatters with the tongue, Prov 28.23.

So how does one go about this in order to have a positive result, and not just dump criticism on the other?

I saw this article today and it reminded me of the verse above that I had read yesterday.

What suggestions would you give on how to reprove another?

#reproof #correction #Proverbs

A noble wife: Proverbs 12.4

“A noble wife is the crown of her husband, but the wife who acts shamefully is like rottenness in his bones.”

Proverbs 12.4

Nobility is strong character for righteousness. Such a wife honors her husband. The shameless wife “is like a disease which gradually wears down and weakens the bodily frame” (J.E. Smith, Wisdom Literature & Psalms).

Marry well by choosing a person of good character. Be a person of nobility by developing in your life the right living which pleases God.

#votd #Proverbs #marrriage

Poor is better: Proverbs 28.6

“A poor person who walks in his integrity is better than one who is perverse in his ways even though he is rich.”

Proverbs 28.6

Riches cannot make up for lack of integrity. The root idea of integrity is completeness, what is “entirely in accord with truth and fact” (TWOT/BDB).

Some things are more important than money. Will we allow the pursuit of money (think time on the job) keep us from being wholly devoted to God?

#votd #Proverbs #integrity

All the words of my mouth are righteous: Proverbs 8.8

“All the words of my mouth are righteous; there is nothing in them twisted or crooked.”

Proverbs 8.8

So speaks the voice of wisdom in its appeal to all mankind. Who learns God’s wisdom can also speak righteous words. But the price to pay is an intense and unceasing search.

Where will we find wisdom? Not on Facebook, nor in a Google search, but in the Word of God. It deserves our constant perusal and meditation.

#votd #Proverbs #wisdom

A continual feast: Proverbs 15.15

“All the days of the afflicted are bad,
but one with a cheerful heart has a continual feast.”

Proverbs 15.15

The afflicted are those whose hearts are heavy because they let circumstances weigh them down. The cheerful heart is one who decides, in every case, to be joyful.

Our attitude affects our enjoyment of life. The decision to develop a positive disposition makes all the difference.

#votd #joy #Proverbs

Fools mock at reparation: Proverbs 14.9

“Fools mock at reparation, but among the upright there is favor.”

Proverbs 14.9

“An intelligent man knows that sin cannot be justified and hence knows better than to try. Fools may know enough to recognize sin but are so lacking in good sense they resort to mocking as an ‘alibi’ for their evil deeds. A man who is righteous will gain the favor of God; if he makes a mistake he will make amends to God” (E.M. Zerr).

#votd #Proverbs #sin

The Lord tests hearts: Proverbs 17.3

“The crucible is for refining silver and the furnace is for gold, likewise the Lord tests hearts.”

Proverbs 17.3

What the Lord does in the life of his saints is similiar to the refining fire, to separate impurities in the heart from what is precious to him. The verse urges cooperation with this process.

How is the Lord testing my heart? What moments and situations is he using to purify my heart? How can I best cooperate with his testing?

#votd #Proverbs #trials

We blame the Lord: Proverbs 19.3

“We are ruined by our own stupidity, though we blame the Lord.”

Proverbs 19.3 CEV

Since Adam, man has blamed God for his problems. A key to wisdom is accepting responsibility for one’s decisions. Then when one errs, one is ready to repent.

Have you blamed God for self-caused suffering? Might many troubles be caused by our actions? We should ask, Where have I made mistakes which have caused me grief, and how might I correct them?

#votd #blame #Proverbs

Isolated himself: Proverbs 18.1

“One who has isolated himself seeks his own desires;
he rejects all sound judgment.”

Proverbs 18.1

In the search for wisdom, one cannot keep to self. A refusal to hear others shows that one only desires to protect one’s own interests.

We need each other. In God’s family we find the wisdom of Christ and course correction. In communion we have great resources for living for God’s glory.

#wisdom #Proverbs #votd

Rule over: Proverbs 17.2 VOTD

“A servant who acts wisely will rule
over an heir who behaves shamefully,
and will share the inheritance along with the relatives.”

Proverbs 17.2

Wisdom often advances a person beyond one’s station. Others recognize the blessing that the presence and work of a wise person brings.

How has the use of wisdom in your life advanced your objectives?

#wisdom #Proverbs #VOTD

Discerns his ways: Proverbs 21.29 VOTD

“A wicked person shows boldness with his face, but as for the upright, he discerns his ways.”

Proverbs 21.29

The wisdom of the Proverbs often contrasts the actions of the wicked and of the righteous, as well as the consequences of their ways.

To discern is to “keep in order,” as one version puts it. What is necessary to put one’s consideration, or thought, into action?

#Proverbs # actions #VOTD

Wisdom will escape: Proverbs 28.26 VOTD

“The one who trusts in his own heart is a fool, but the one who walks in wisdom will escape.”

Proverbs 28.26

Trust in one’s self leads to stealing from parents, v. 24, greed, v. 25, ignoring the needs of others, v. 27, and abuse of power, v. 28.

The heart deceives, leading one to believe that success is a result of one’s own effort. Wisdom saves from such foolishness and its inevitable consequences.

#wisdom #Proverbs #VOTD

Diligent: Proverbs 21.5 VOTD

“The plans of the diligent lead only to plenty, but everyone who is hasty comes only to poverty.”

Proverbs 21.5

Proverbs are general truths or observations. The contrast here is between the careful planner and hard worker and the person in a hurry to get wealthy.

Does our popular phrase, “Haste makes waste” apply here?

#diligence #haste #Proverbs #VOTD

Word to the Wise. Proverbs 10:2

Treasures gained by wickedness do not profit, but righteousness delivers from death. Why would someone seek wealth via wicked deeds or thinking? Because there is no real belief there will be a day of reckoning. While the thinking of great profit awaits, many hope, actually, it is the righteous who receive wealth, a wealth that is not of this world – which is of greater value. If the wicked thought as the righteous, the wicked would no longer be wicked, but righteous. Seems to be a truism; we also see another truism: the wicked far outnumber the righteous. The Lord’s way of educating the mind has a way of changing hearts that have no desire to live by this world’s standards, but those hearts need to want a wealth that is not of this world. RT

#wealth #truisms #Proverbs

Growing brighter: Proverbs 4.18 VOTD

“But the path of the righteous is like the bright morning light, growing brighter and brighter until full day.”

Proverbs 4.18

This chapter on wisdom contrasts the way of the wicked and that of the righteous. Wisdom must be valued and pursued vigorously.

How does this verse speak to the righteous who find themselves under duress?

#wisdom #Proverbs #VOTD #light