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  • John T. Polk II 1:54 pm on 2015-11-25 Permalink | Reply
    Tags: , , , obey the gospel, passion of lusts, sex,   

    11-24-2015 Life Without God 

    For this is the will of God, your sanctification: that you should abstain from sexual immorality; that each of you should know how to possess his own vessel in sanctification and honor, not in passion of lust, like the Gentiles who do not know God” (1 Thessalonians 4:3-5 NKJV). God placed clean, honorable sexual relations within marriage, for “Marriage is honorable among all, and the bed undefiled; but fornicators and adulterers God will judge” (Hebrews 13:4 NKJV), for “the body is not for sexual immorality but for the Lord, and the Lord for the body” (1 Corinthians 6:13 NKJV). Those whose lives are devoted only to “sexual immorality” and “passion of lust,” “do not know God.” Jesus will condemn those who “do not know God,” and “do not obey the gospel of our Lord Jesus Christ” (2 Thessalonians 1:8 NKJV).

    This is Johnny Polk, with “Words of Wisdom” brought to you by the Oneida church of Christ.

  • John T. Polk II 10:58 am on 2015-06-04 Permalink | Reply
    Tags: 19 Kids and Counting, , , Josh Duggar, Kaitlyn Bristowe, sex, The Bachelorette   

    6-1-2015 Is There No Shame? 

    Josh Duggar’s 2006 police record was released about his teen-aged sins in 2002. His family at the time dealt with his problems with counseling and forgiveness. As the oldest of the children on “19 Kids and Counting,” his shame for his sins made him seek God as never before. The Learning Channel (TLC) has dropped the series, as has its sponsors, and HULU won’t even replay the program! “The Bachelorette,” 30-year-old Kaitlyn Bristowe, had sex with a suitor and said, intimacy, to me, is part of a relationship. I don’t know why everyone is so shocked by it.” Isn’t it sad to watch headline hypocrisy at work? Kaitlyn is shameless, Josh is ashamed. “A prudent man covers shame” (Proverbs 12:16 NKJV), and “the unjust knows no shame (Zephaniah 3:5 NKJV).

    Let the proud be ashamed” (Psalm 119:78 NKJV).

    This is Johnny Polk, with “Words of Wisdom” brought to you by the Oneida church of Christ.

    • RichardS 12:55 pm on 2015-06-04 Permalink | Reply

      According to an article on the website intouchweekly.com dated 6/3/15, the Duggars did not get Josh or the victims professional counseling for 16 months, not sure on what point in time the counseling started. Also, they waited at least 16 months to report the incidents to the police. I think they tried to cover their shame but only caused more shame in the process.

      • johntpolk2 3:44 pm on 2015-06-05 Permalink | Reply

        Don’t overlook the glaring fact that Kaitlyn Bristowe has NO Christian counselling for her ungodly action of fornication! The Duggars did not turn their son over to the police immediately, but with prayers, guidance, and parental love, they tried to steer him rightly. This according to their 2-part TV interview over Fox News June 3 and 5, 2015. After they realized he might have more of a problem than originally thought, they put him in 4-week counselling. His actions were of a fondling nature and unknown to the girls. It is more of a violation of the girls for the police record to be headlined than anything Josh actually did. The Duggars delay of time was to handle this within the family to the best of their abilities, NOT to keep it from the prying public. The girls’ shame has been generated over the publicity, not the action.

        • RichardS 8:39 pm on 2015-06-06 Permalink | Reply

          They are both wrong in God’s sight. But humans will accept fornication but not child molesting. Do you think the Duggars have been forgiven by God ?
          When the Duggars became public figures they gave up there private lives for the most part. They will be thoroughly examined before it’s all said and done, especially since they claim to be Christians.

  • John T. Polk II 10:46 am on 2015-05-09 Permalink | Reply
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    4-28-2015 Transgender? 

    So God created man in His own image; in the image of God He created him; male and female He created them” (Genesis 1:27 NKJV). Gender and sex for humans were established by God in the Creation. The first “male and female” were joined together in the purest of human relationships we call “marriage” (Genesis 2:22-25). Every attempt by humans to ignore those boundaries is sin. Sex without marriage is “fornication;” sex ignoring marriage is “adultery;” sex within one’s own gender is “against nature” and “shameful” (Romans 1:26-27). Jesus confirmed Creation when He said, “from the beginning of the creation, God ‘made them male and female’” (Mark 10:6 NKJV). Crossing gender lines is perverting God’s rule. “Those who are of a perverse heart are an abomination to the LORD” (Proverbs 11:20 NKJV)

    This is Johnny Polk, with “Words of Wisdom” brought to you by the Oneida church of Christ.

  • Ed Boggess 7:50 am on 2013-08-20 Permalink | Reply
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    . We live in a sex-soaked, sex-sick society! The latest step towards the precipice is evidenced by the trilogy of erotic best-sellers that focus on kinky sex; things like bondage, sadism, and masochism. The top three best-sellers are a “show and tell” for twisted BDSM sex. The local department store may soon carry a line of handcuffs and whips. Some clinical psychologists estimate BDSM is already practiced by one in ten couples and is rapidly increasing. In large cities there are even BDSM clubs and advocacy groups. All this does is pervert what God created as beautiful. Sex as God designed it is the most intimate expression of love between a husband and wife. But let the devil in and all you get is sin and wickedness. This is Just-A-Minute

  • Eugene Adkins 6:56 am on 2012-07-23 Permalink | Reply
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    “Proverbs Are The Piths” (10) 

    In Proverbs 5:1-14 Solomon has warned his son about the end result of adultery; now he gives a solution to help extinguish the tempter’s fire in Proverbs 5:15-23. And what is this solution? Feed the fire that burns at home and you won’t have time to feed the ones out on the street!

    Verses 15-17: If you don’t go around drinking from any ole’ water source, then why trust just anybody with something that goes straight to the heart? The consequences are rampant even today. Illegitimate children who suffer because of bad decisions made through lust, broken homes and STD’s aren’t just modern casualties of illicit sex! But modern-day TV shows reveal hearts by having no shame in profiting from the spectacle of people not knowing who has fathered their child, marriages that get dissolved before they ever began and circus-like atmospheres that supposed adults create for our culture to be spoon-fed with all because someone decided to take a drink from a stagnant and deadly source. Stick with running waters and the source we can trust and there will be no sickness that others suffer with.

    Verses 18-20: Solomon urges his son to be “intoxicated” with his wife and he won’t be poisoned by adultery! Sex was designed by God and God designed marriage to be the place where the passions get played out. Any other avenue results in grave danger (Hebrews 13:4). There is intended to be much more involved in sex than just the physical pleasure. Notice how Solomon does not leave out the word “love.” To reduce the act of sex to the physical act alone, is to reduce the one with whom the act is shared with down to a physical object that can be replaced, removed and resold! There is no safety in the arms of someone who seeks only the fleeting physical pleasures of sex and not the lasting bond of love, care, concern and happiness through God’s ordained marriage covenant.

    Verses 21-23: Why listen to this marriage counselor? Why think with the mind and not the flesh? Because our Creator is watching! The immoral person couldn’t care less about the soul that we must give an account for. This lesson that’s worth remembering for our culture today has a lot more to do with the Law of Heaven than it does with the Law of the Land! Instruction has been given, but the results and deadliness of not heeding it can sadly be seen in every generation.

    • Don Ruhl 7:52 am on 2012-07-23 Permalink | Reply

      “Feed the fire that burns at home and you won’t have time to feed the ones out on the street!” Nice wording, brother.

      • Eugene Adkins 4:08 pm on 2012-07-23 Permalink | Reply

        Thanks, Don.

        Use it to teach brother. It should be an analogy that’s easy enough for anyone to understand. Might even help us and others to understand what to do if/when that “old flame” appears in person or over the web.

        Solomon isn’t done with the fire analogies either. More advice to come; some that he’s probably giving from personal experience when he got burned on several (hundred) occasions.

  • Eugene Adkins 6:49 am on 2012-06-26 Permalink | Reply
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    “Proverbs Are The Piths” (5) 

    The book of Proverbs shows itself to be an equal opportunity defender in 2:16-19. Not only will God’s word protect young people from “slick talking men” – it will protect them from “slick talking women” too!

    Verse 16- Solomon tells his son that the pretty young from down the street has grown to be trouble in the neighborhood. While the word “strange” (KJV and others) can refer to a foreigner, it can also refer to someone who has become “estranged” from a covenant or lifestyle. She wasn’t leaving; she was already gone. This is the exact reason we find the words of verse 17.

    Verse 17- She was raised to know and do better! While this can’t be said for every person, it can be said for her. In all likelihood, verse 17 indicates not only the abandonment of her God (covenant), but also the betrayal of her husband (companion of youth). So Solomon says beware my son, she knows the right words (vs.16), but she doesn’t have the right heart!

    Verse 18-19 – It’s a one street with a dead-end sign. Solomon introduces a topic that every young man must be warned about – the lust of the eye, lust of the flesh and the pride of life. It’s a big warning about a little bit of sex and it won’t be the last time these wise words are given to this naive young man. One can almost hear Solomon saying, “Don’t make the same mistake I did.”

    There’s no doubt in my mind that Solomon understood how easily temptation could overtake a young person through lust. He knew everyone is only young once, but Solomon never once minced his words to his children in the book of Proverbs – sin leads to death every time no matter how pretty it may be!

  • J. Randal Matheny 5:59 am on 2011-10-17 Permalink | Reply
    Tags: bodily functions, , , sex,   

    On spiritual and bodily functions, sex, poetry, and fried chicken 

    This piece is a bit longer than my normal TFR posts, but I trust you’ll have a greater chance because of it to find some small nugget to adorn your faith.

    • My debut article on Weylan’s Biblical Notes mag: “Man’s Noblest Function,” takes issue with this quote by an American author and journalist, “Man has no nobler function than to defend the truth.” You’ll get no spoiler here on the title, but suffice it to say we seek not to do anything against the truth. Somebody else said it first, “For we cannot do anything against the truth, but only for the sake of the truth” (2 Cor 13:8). And a truth we want others to apprehend.

    • Taking a cue from the poetry and hymns of Scripture, I see my poetry, in part, as an evangelistic effort. Entering the midst of worldly people, even in order to bless, one hears and sees what one would rather not. I imagine our Lord Jesus had to tolerate some unpleasantness from the publicans and prostitutes he worked with. Not to mention from the religionists and his own disciples. So I’ve joined a social-networking poetry site with some unsavory pieces there and, for example, a segment on erotica.

    • Here’s where I’d appreciate your feedback. I thought about writing a piece of poetry, a la Song of Solomon, for that last-mentioned segment. Would it be banalized in that setting? Or might it point to sex as the Creator made it?

    • That brings up the question of direct proclamation and subtler seed-sowing. I tend much toward the former. But no doubt there’s a place for the latter as well, where the power of influence, of clean life and healthy words and the sunny disposition of faith in God offer a powerful contrast to the darkness of godlessness and the gutter of perversity. It seems most Christians hope against hope that the latter is sufficient, which it is not, since somewhere along the way the Word has to be spoken in its glorious detail. In some places, though, it may be the best way to start.

    • The subject also brings up the question of sex. I tend to avoid the subject in order not to offend some sensibilities among squeamish brethren. A few of you, TFR Fellows, have written on it now and again in good taste, as expected, and to good effect. It’s an area where we need more writing, but not of the kind that points out the sin of illicit sexual relations, rather, its celebration as God’s gift to man.

    • Widening up that thought a bit, it’s an amazing thing to note that, when the physical organism is functioning properly, the human body’s basic functions create a sense of pleasure. The obvious example is eating, to provide the body energy. We well know how pleasurable mama’s fried chicken is, right, John? Another small example is the function of homeostatis, maintaining the internal conditions necessary for survival. During exercise, the body sweats. Don’t we talk about working up a good sweat? We know the good feeling that comes from having the body in motion.

    • All that to say, God in his wisdom makes such functions pleasurable, physically, as a part of helping us survive and thrive. One wonders at times if our faith hasn’t been tainted by ascetic tendencies from Greek philosophy via false Christian manifestations that preach the mortification of the body, rather than the buffeting of the flesh, as per Paul in 2 Cor 9:27.

    • Speaking of whom, Paul rejects the prohibition of meat, which is to be received with thanksgiving, for every creature is good (he must be thinking of the Jewish equivalent of his momma’s fried chicken), and we may rejoice in the pleasure of eating when “sanctified through the word of God and prayer” (1 Tim 4:3-5). Later on in that same letter is Paul’s amazing statement, considering the context of his commandments to the rich, that God “richly provides us with all things for our enjoyment” (1 Tim 6:17).

    • Indeed he does. And may we enjoy all those things he richly provides us, as part of the blessings of the Kingdom, knowing that they have an even higher purpose, to glorify God (this is where we came in today) and prepare us for that highest enjoyment of all, his eternal presence.

    • Stephen R. Bradd 6:55 am on 2011-10-17 Permalink | Reply

      Good post, Randal.
      I’ve got some lessons on AE that your post reminded me of. I adapted a series of lessons from some Glenn Colley lectures a few years ago. Here is the series link followed by a specific link on sexual satisfaction:


      I’ve preached the series before on Sunday mornings and it was well received–even with children present. Some may not feel comfortable doing such, but I think it can be done beneficially. Besides, in our sex-saturated culture, it’s an issue kids are going to learn about–they may as well hear the truth on it at an early age rather than just the worldly view. That’s my perspective anyway.

    • John Henson 10:13 am on 2011-10-17 Permalink | Reply

      Every bit true, especially about the chicken. Homeostasis also includes the fluid and electrolyte balance that is present in healthy people. When it goes out of balance, can cause heart failure, kidney disorders. Mostly, we correct fluid balance when we’re thirsty. There is a relationship of sodium to potassium which needs to remain in balance for the heart to be with a regular rhythm. Too much sodium, and water retention occurs. Too little salt (as well as too little potassium) can wreck the heartbeat. As you wrote, all of these things God helps us maintain with pleasurable sensations.

      • J. Randal Matheny 6:26 am on 2011-10-18 Permalink | Reply

        Thanks, guys. Stephen, glad to see those links. John, glad to have that extra info there to bolster the point of the post.

  • J. Randal Matheny 2:59 pm on 2011-09-01 Permalink | Reply
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    Read free chapter, ‘The Sexualization of America’ 

    From Joel Wells, at Focus Press:

    As many of you know the issue of sexuality in America seems to be at the front of everything from marketing to movies. Most people aren’t aware of the damaging consequences and of the trail of pain that is left behind. I invite you to click on the attached link and read a free chapter from the book – Game Plan – on this very issue.

    The chapter is titled, “The Sexualization of America.”

    • Richard S. Reinhardt, Jr. 3:53 am on 2011-09-03 Permalink | Reply

      I purchased a copy of the book while at PTP and just sat down to read the first two chapters of the book. Thus far it seems to be a really good book and I would highly recommend it to anyone.

  • Richard Mansel 7:27 pm on 2011-05-21 Permalink | Reply
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    Clear Statement About Homosexuality 

    Homosexuality is a sin and unnatural (Romans 1:26-32). Emotional arguments will be made and people will bring up what is said in the Old Testament. However, we no longer live under the Old  Testament (Hebrews 8-9). The New Testament is very clear that homosexuality is sin and that is our authority today.

    However, this is far removed from saying that God hates those who practice homosexuality. God loves them as people created in the image of God. But, when people commit that which is in violation of God’s will, sin separates them from God (Isaiah 59:1-2). God hates sin, not His creation.

    Homosexuality is a sin like any other (Romans 3:23). If we do not practice it, we are not sinning. Urges do not constitute sin, unless lust is involved (James 1:14-15).

    There are Christians who struggle with these sins but God is there to help them survive the temptations.

    Any discussion of homosexuality creates a lot of hostility on both sides. Name calling and insults are never productive. It is unchristian because it is unloving and unmerciful and should have no place in discussions of God’s will (Ephesians 4:15).

    (More …)

  • Ed Boggess 8:20 am on 2011-04-12 Permalink | Reply
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    Germany today; US tomorrow? – JAM 

    Earlier this year authorities in Paderborn, Germany sent several fathers and mothers to jail for refusing to allow the public school system to indoctrinate their children with a sex philosophy that “if it feels good, do it.” There are five families objecting to the permissive view of sex as contrary to Christian morality. The government response has been to jail the parents. The course involves four days of mandated sexual education, including a stage play called “My body is my own” and interactive programs promoting views that radically contradict both Jewish and Christian traditional ethics. Part of the course is calculated to encourage acceptance of homosexuality as normal and approved. Is this an omen of things to come here in America? This trend is sweeping across Europe and will likely soon be knocking on our door. This is Just-a-minute with Ed Boggess

  • Richard Mansel 6:09 am on 2011-02-05 Permalink | Reply
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    The Bible's Simple Plan for Sex 

    Scripture speaks often and favorably about sex. God loves humanity and provides sexual fulfillment as a rewarding way to bring marriages closer together and to produce offspring. In the proper context, it is a powerful and beautiful thing.

    We will briefly consider the proper role of sex in our lives. God’s plan is simple and wholesome. However, the world ridicules it as being old-fashioned, outdated and repressive. These false charges are proof of how sexually depraved the world has become.

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    • Mike Riley 10:15 am on 2011-02-05 Permalink | Reply

      I like what you state here, Richard: “Remember that God’s plan requires humility and selflessness,which dooms most people.”

      Yes, those two qualities of character definitely dooms most people – they are neither humble or selfless – their only criteria is, “What’s in it for me?”

  • Ed Boggess 8:25 am on 2011-01-06 Permalink | Reply
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    Fornication – JAM 

    The Bible calls it fornication. Sociologists call it premarital sex. The world calls it “sowing your wild oats.” But Hollywood calls it normal. But whatever you call it, unmarried couples living in sin are finding that there are still a great many people who both frown on fornication. A Minnesota landlord, Layle Frenc, 33, who refused to rent an apartment to an unmarried couple, is being sued because of his religious convictions. The public response on his behalf has been tremendous with rallies, petitions and letters of encouragement that have poured in from throughout the state. Many have sent donations to help pay his legal fees. In Ezekiel 22, God looked for a man that should stand in the gap. May we all stand in the gap to hold back the flood of sin. This is Just-A-Minute with Ed Boggess

  • Richard Mansel 8:12 pm on 2010-07-05 Permalink | Reply
    Tags: , , premarital counseling, , sex   

    Premarital Counseling 

    If you need help with material to use in performing premarital counseling, I have put some of my questions and links on my blog.

    • Ron 4:57 am on 2010-07-06 Permalink | Reply

      Richard, looks real good. I have material at teh ready when I do pre-marital counseling. I think I will add yours also. Good job!

  • Richard Mansel 3:32 am on 2010-03-10 Permalink | Reply
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    Sexual Sin 

    Health officials in Washington have announced a staggering repudiation of sexual promiscuity. They won’t put it that way, but it is.  We are told that 1 in 6 Americans between ages 14 and 49, have herpes. They report that 48% of Black women have herpes. There is no cure.

    Actions always have consequences.  If we would all follow God’s plan for sex, we would all be healthier and happier (Hebrews 13:4).

  • Richard Mansel 2:09 pm on 2010-02-16 Permalink | Reply
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    Protecting Our Spouse 

    How we can help protect our spouse from sexual temptation? It is imperative that we follow God’s plan for a one-flesh marriage. Read more.

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