Perfect individual: James 3.2

“For we all stumble in many ways. If someone does not stumble in what he says, he is a perfect individual, able to control the entire body as well.”

James 3.2

In his practical letter, James urges his Jewish readers to integrity of faith and works, especially in impartial treatment of others. The big challenge is to bridle the tongue. It is powerful far beyond its size.

Some time-management people say start with the big challenges. Others counsel taking the small tasks first. In faith, at least, we know which one is the biggie.

#votd #speech #James

When words abound: Proverbs 10.19 VOTD

“When words abound, transgression is inevitable, but the one who restrains his words is wise.”

Proverbs 10.19

A person who talks a lot is more prone to use words badly and thereby sin by their use. Though the gospel must be spoken, in daily interactions less is more.

Are you a talker? In what ways do your words tend toward transgression? What bad use do you make of your speech?

#words #speech #VOTD

Speech: Proverbs 15.4 VOTD

“Speech that heals is like a life-giving tree, but a perverse tongue breaks the spirit.”

Proverbs 15.4

As a book of wisdom through the fear of God, Proverbs emphasizes the power of the word and its influence upon others.

In what ways can speech heal and give life?

#speech #tongue #VOTD

Hugh’s News & Views (Words)

THE WORDS OF MY MOUTH

David prayed, “Let the words of my mouth and the meditation of my heart be acceptable in Thy sight, O Lord, my rock and my Redeemer” (Psalm 19:14, NASB).

Someone said that it is easy to “slip” with our tongue because it is in such a slippery place. The brother of Jesus wrote: “For we all stumble in many things. If anyone does not stumble in word, he is a perfect man, able also to bridle the whole body” (James 3:2, NKJV). Christ Himself said, “But I say to you that for every idle word men may speak, they will give account of it in the day of judgment. For by your words you will be justified, and by your words you will be condemned” (Matthew 12:36-37). Continue reading

#hughfulford, #speech, #tongue, #words

Depends on whom you’re talking to

We call little girls big girls and they are proud. I suspect calling big girls big girls would not elicit the same reaction. (I have not tried it personally and do not recommend attempting it, at the risk of one’s health and well-being.)

Words must be measured. The person to whom we address ourselves determines our approach. Continue reading

#evangelism, #knowledge, #mission, #obligations, #speech

What does the Bible say about positive speech?

By: Douglas M. Williams, Sr.

“Death and life are in the power of the tongue (Proverbs 18:21).

“A good man out of the good treasure of his heart brings forth good things, and an evil man out of the evil treasure brings forth evil things” (Matthew 12:35).

“Out of the same mouth proceed blessings and cursing. My brethren, these things ought not to be so” (James 3:10).

“He who would love life and see good days, let him refrain his tongue from evil, and his lips from speaking deceit” (1 Peter 3:10).

“If anyone speaks, let him speak as the oracles of God” (1 Peter 4:11).

Last week’s writing was about ways not to speak, and now we write about using our speech for good purposes. Last week we concluded that our speech should be used in good ways to bless, praise, and glorify God and to be a blessing to our fellow human beings.

With this thought in mind, and as noted in the above Scriptures, let us consider a Bible example. “Then Philip opened his mouth, and beginning at this Scripture, preached Jesus to him” (Acts 8:35). Here the Bible tells us that God had sent Philip to meet a man that was reading a prophecy about Jesus from Isaiah 53. The result of that meeting was that the man completed his obedience to Christ and was saved as he was baptized.

Philip opened his mouth and spoke good things. What is spoken when we open our mouths? Of what do our lips speak? Realizing the tremendous potential – either for good or evil – of our words, let us resolve to use speech that honors God when we open our mouth.

The greatest message man has ever received is the gospel – the good news of the death, burial, and resurrection of Jesus the Son of God (1 Corinthians 15:1-4). We should feel extremely honored to know the gospel, and to use our tongues to tell the world about salvation in “the unsearchable riches of Christ” (Ephesians 3:8).

“But sanctify the Lord God in your hearts, and always be ready to give a defense to everyone who asks you a reason for the hope that is in you, with meekness and fear” (1 Peter 3:15).

#speech

What does the Bible say about our speech?

Written by Douglas M. Williams, Sr.

“You shall not take the name of the Lord your God in vain, for the Lord will not hold him guiltless who take His name in vain” (Exodus 20:7).

“Out of the abundance of the heart the mouth speaks. A good man out of the good treasure of his heart brings forth good things, and an evil man out of the evil treasure brings forth evil things. But I say to you that for every idle word man may speak, they will give account of it in the day of judgment. For by your words you will be justified, and by your words you will be condemned” (Matthew 12:34-37).

“But now you yourselves are to put off all these: anger, wrath, malice, blasphemy, filthy language out of your mouth” (Colossians 3:8).

At the beginning of a new year there is much talk about “resolutions.” I hope you have made resolutions to improve your life, and with this thought, I wanted to write about our speech as a resolution that we may not normally think about.

The above verses, and many others in the Bible, warn us about our speech not only in what we say but how we say it. James has much to say about the use of our tongue and shows that our words reveal our character (James 1:19, 26; 3:1-12). Speech is the index of the mind and heart. Some may use vulgar language because of a weak intelligence, thinking they cannot express themselves without using bad language. Yet the dictionary has thousands of good words we can use instead.

It is a bad, evil habit to curse, swear, use profanity, and use God’s name in vain. We should also be careful and guard against euphemisms as bywords and slang. Some who would not think of cursing, plainly use bywords that are closely akin to cursing.

Bad language is not only a bad evil habit, but is a sin against God and society. It is a bad example that can and should be stopped. Language is guarded when women or certain people are present, but remember God is always present and hears.

Our speech should be used in good ways to bless, praise, and glorify God and to be a blessing to our fellow human beings (1 Peter 3:15; 4:11).

#new-year, #resolutions, #speech

Be Careful What You Say

Early in my preaching career, I realized that I must be careful the way I phrase things in order to be sensitive to the needs of the audience.

For example, on Mother’s Day, I always remember that not all women can be Mothers. In our exuberance to praise Mothers we can say something that will harm the childless.

Imagine being a childless Mother who hears the preacher say that God blesses godly women with children. The obvious conclusion is that she doesn’t have children because she is a sinner. Where does Scripture say that?

We can inadvertently say things that can offend people if we do not consider the larger implications of our words.

When I prepare a power point presentation, which are largely images, I give thought to how something can be taken. In our writing we must always consider this. Sometimes, I fail and people get offended. I apologize to them. But the better path is to try to prevent it from happening in the beginning.

We cannot always know what will offend people. In an audience, there are many people’s whose lives consist of events and scars that the preacher cannot possibly know.

Naturally, we can say things that cause harm without intention. Nevertheless, we can give every consideration to what we can control, in this area.

On Facebook, I just saw a quote that is intended to praise Mothers and Grandmothers. The quote is: The Best Moms Get Promoted to Grandmas.” That is sweet but doesn’t hold a shred of evidence in the real world. Accordingly, I would caution any speaker from using it in a lesson.

Countless Mothers have children who either die, are infertile or choose not to have children. What does it accomplish to brand these women as bad mothers? How does that help spread the Gospel and help anyone get to heaven? In fact, it may impede their spirituality!

Let us be careful what we say and use our tongue and pen wisely (James 3:1-12).

#grandmothers, #mothers, #parents, #speech, #tongue, #wisdom

Would that we all had this effect upon people

by Oliver Goldsmith

At church, with meek and unaffected grace,
His looks adorn’d the venerable place;
Truth from his lips prevail’d with double sway,
And fools, who came to scoff, remain’d to pray.

#example, #poetry, #speech

A Word Spoken

Proverbs 10:19 says, “In the multitude of words sin is not lacking, but he who restrains his lips is wise.” Many years ago I learned that the value of a word fitly spoken penetrates powerfully. Though I learned this I did not always do what I learned. While I was in the USAF, stationed in Guam, I heard a brother in the Lord answer someone’s question about why he spoke so little. He responded, “I’m tired of eating my foot.” Those few words said more to me than all the philosophy classes I took in college. What is your impression of a person who seems to always be talking? My impression, sometimes, is that the person doing all or nearly all the talking doesn’t have much to say, but it is going to be said anyway. The context, of course, of the circumstances (and words) will determine how this is to be interpreted. The proverb writer does not speak anything profoundly spiritual. He simply utters a truth that any mature adult can understand. I wish, though, that many adults would transfer this understanding of theirs into actions. Someone has said that if you give a man enough rope and he will hang himself. I think I’ll carry a short rope! RT

#proverbs, #speech, #words

The Positive Use of the Tongue

David spoke of his tongue as a pen (Psalm 45:1) and his enemies’ tongues as sharp swords (Psalm 57:4). We learn that God hates a tongue which forms lies (Proverbs 6:17). Isaiah prophesied a future time so happy that it would cause “the tongue of the dumb [to] sing” (Isaiah 35:6). The ungodly tongue is described by Jeremiah as a “deadly arrow” (Jeremiah 9:8). James calls the unruly tongue a “fire” (James 3:6). (Read More at The Proclaimer)

#christian-living, #speech, #the-proclaimer, #tongue

If we will be skilled at social interact…

If we will be skilled at social interaction, we must curtail and control our pet peeves, lest they gain a life of their own and devour us.

#communication, #pet-peeves, #speech

A Drought of Truth?

Have you been shopping lately? Many of us do some shopping every week to varying degrees. I read the following story recently and wanted to share it with you. It is humorous but also contains a good lesson. I can certainly imagine a scene like this unfolding in any number of stores.

A store manager heard his clerk tell a customer, “No ma’am we haven’t had any for a while, and it doesn’t look as if we’ll be getting any soon…”

Horrified, the manager came running over to the customer and said, “Of course we’ll have some soon! We placed an order last week.” Then the manager drew the clerk aside. “Never,” he snarled, “never, never, never say we’re out of anything; say we’ve got it on order and it’s coming. Now, what was it she wanted anyway?”

The clerk replied, “Rain.”

It would be hard to be that clerk and not smile after watching the manager make a fool of himself by speaking before he knew what he was talking about! Sadly, the manager’s problem wasn’t just a matter of speaking out of turn; he was willing to say anything in an effort to make his store look good and in hopes of maximizing sales. He didn’t want the woman going elsewhere to buy whatever he thought she wanted, so he was willing to lie–and even order his clerk to lie–to try to keep the woman’s business. In this case, however, his lying made him look like a fool, at the very least. More significantly, he has proven himself to be lacking in integrity. Anyone who is willing to say anything to try to look good is not to be trusted. Their compliments are hollow and their explanations are not to be believed.

Let us consider Proverbs 12:17-22 at this time, which has much to say about lying:

“He who speaks truth declares righteousness, but a false witness, deceit. There is one who speaks like the piercings of a sword, but the tongue of the wise promotes health. The truthful lip shall be established forever, but a lying tongue is but for a moment. Deceit is in the heart of those who devise evil, but counselors of peace have joy. No grave trouble will overtake the righteous, but the wicked shall be filled with evil. Lying lips are an abomination to the LORD, but those who deal truthfully are His delight.”
Friends, we all are tempted to lie at times for various reasons, but don’t give in to it! God knows when we stretch the truth or utter lies we think are small and harmless. He knows when we manipulate words to make ourselves shine in the best light possible. Remember, lying lips are an abomination before Almighty God! Such is repulsive to the One who sees all! If we deal truthfully at home, at work, and in all other situations, God will delight in us. What more could we really desire?

(my lesson today from www.AudioEvangelism.com)

#lying, #speech, #tongue, #words

RE: Ron’s post on speaking little

Just last night, I read that one way to sin less is to close one’s mouth. The specific topic was lying. The author graphed it out, for sake of illustration.

If you have three hundred conversations per week and you lie five times, your Liar Prediction Index would be three hundred to five. You want to lower the number of lies? Then watch this. If you have only two hundred conversations the next week, you’ll bring your net number of lies down to 3.3. Have sixty conversations the following week and you’ll lie only once. And here’s the real beauty of the system. If you want to stop lying altogether, have fifty-nine conversations or fewer. (Bill Hybels, Making Life Work, 88)

Well, we hope he’s talking tongue in cheek, we know it’s not quite like that. It almost sounds a bit like the Preacher’s admonition not to be excessively wicked (Eccl 7:17). But his point’s well taken, that to sin less, do not multiply words. As NLT puts it,

Too much talk leads to sin.
Be sensible and keep your mouth shut (Prov. 10:19).
Ron, I think you’re on to something.

#lying, #speech, #tongue, #words