The brewing pot called anger

He who is slow to anger is better than the mighty, and he who rules his spirit than he who takes a city.” (Proverbs 16:22)

Anger isn’t always a bad emotion…it’s just not always good.

Family feuds, street fights and global warfare has been waged more times than one would want to count simply because water isn’t the thing that can boil-over.

Self-control is vital when it comes to anger or else the anger will control us. Many times it has been said that an individual “lost his or her temper” when we should probably say that the individual “lost his or her temperance”. Great strength (and wisdom) is far and above displayed in the ability to control our self in place of the ability to control someone else. Perhaps this is why the saying, “he who angers you controls you” is so pertinent when it comes to Proverbs 16:22. When anger gets the best of us, we think we’re going to get the best of someone else, when in reality they may have already got from us exactly what they wanted.

A controlled anger makes us stronger than the mighty and greater than the conqueror – and that’s why a controlled anger leads to better things being poured into the cup we call our heart.

“Be angry, and do not sin”: do not let the sun go down on your wrath, nor give place to the devil.” (Ephesians 4:26-27)

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You don't want to make a church going…

You don’t want to make a church-going secretary mad, at least not Bristow, Virginia Mona Shaw. Shaw, who was 75 at the time, and her husband, Don, had an appointment for a Comcast technician to install the all-in-one phone, internet and cable service. When the technician came two days late, he left without finishing and then two days later all their service was cut. They went to the local office and waited and waited for hours before being told the manager had left for the day. She returned with a hammer and vented her frustration by attacking the office computer. She was fined $350 and barred from all Comcast offices for a year. She says, “A few have called me a hero but most say I’m just an old lady who got mad. I had a hissy fit.” Count me among the latter. You never win hearts by losing your head. This is Just A Minute.

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(#59) The Proverbs of Solomon 12:16-Keep A Lid On It!

Since God Created humans, only God can provide specific understanding of human behavior. God gave Solomon Divine Wisdom (1 Kings Chapters 3 and 10) to explain what and why behavior is as it is, and Proverbs 10:1-24:34 are randomly written, as if they were Solomon’s judgments about individual cases brought to him, or simply God-given explanations about life. New Testament passages may help see the continuation of Wisdom offered through Jesus Christ.

Proverbs 12:16: “A fool’s wrath is known at once, But a prudent man covers shame.”

The contrast is with a “fool” who is quick to explode, and a “prudent man” who can control his temper. “Wrath” is the “shame” of the second phrase. Losing control of one’s thoughts, words, and actions makes a person a “fool,” and everything done or said in that condition shows total weakness, not strength! Policemen and Soldiers should show strength “under fire.” Road rage or foot rage, it is all the same. All athletes that erupt or benches that empty, demonstrate what weaklings they are. Whether involving an “ex,” a “former” spouse or friend, or provoked child, domestic disputes that end in violence are committed by a “fool.” Wrathful explosions are always from wimps, never from winners! Shadrach, Meshach, Abed-Nego were stronger than Nebuchadnezzar who was “full of fury” and cast them into the fiery furnace (Daniel 3:13, 19). Saul of Tarsus was “breathing threats and murder against the disciples of the Lord” (Acts 9:1) until he ran up against Jesus Christ (Acts 9:3-20). Jesus Christ was the epitome of “prudent,” “who, when He was reviled, did not revile in return; when He suffered, He did not threaten, but committed Himself to Him who judges righteously” (1 Peter 2:23).

Other proverbs that express this include: “A quick-tempered man acts foolishly, And a man of wicked intentions is hated” (Proverbs 14:17); “He who is slow to wrath has great understanding, But he who is impulsive exalts folly” (Proverbs 14:29); “A soft answer turns away wrath, But a harsh word stirs up anger” (Proverbs 15:1); “He who is slow to anger is better than the mighty, And he who rules his spirit than he who takes a city” (Proverbs 16:32); “A man of great wrath will suffer punishment; For if you rescue him, you will have to do it again” (Proverbs 19:19); “Make no friendship with an angry man, And with a furious man do not go, Lest you learn his ways And set a snare for your soul” (Proverbs 22:24-25); “Whoever has no rule over his own spirit Is like a city broken down, without walls” (Proverbs 25:28). Like an unprotected city, “an angry man” has no defense for what he says and does! Medals for Bravery should be given to each person who “rules his spirit,” as Purple Hearts should be given to those who have to live with “a quick-tempered man.” Don’t learn the ways of an angry man by using “harsh words,” rather master the art of “a soft answer.” This wisdom from above for Christians is summarized by James: “So then, my beloved brethren, let every man be swift to hear, slow to speak, slow to wrath; for the wrath of man does not produce the righteousness of God” (James 1:19-20).

All Scriptures and comments are based upon the New King James Version, unless otherwise noted.

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Uncontrolled temper – JAM

In September (2010) a Kentucky man lost his temper over how his wife cooked his eggs and in a rage killed her, his stepdaughter, three neighbors and then himself. Stanley Neace, 47, of Mount Carmel could have used an Anger Management Course. A Proverb says, “Good sense makes one slow to anger, and it is his glory to overlook an offense.” When push comes to shove and you are tempted to show someone who is boss, stop and think for a moment. Count to ten, then lead with your head, not your feelings. If I were creating a new proverb, it might be: “the man who blows his top, loses his head.” Stanley certainly lost his. This is Just-A-Minute with Ed Boggess

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