Suggestions for wives

Stephen Bradd has good suggestions here. He deals with several attitudes:

“There are women who are thinking to themselves right now: ‘I’m better qualified than my husband is to be in charge. I’m smarter and therefore better qualified to lead.'”

#marriage #wife


6-29-2015 Created Equality

Jesus Christ taught “that He who made them at the beginning ‘made them male and female,’ and said, ‘For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh’? So then, they are no longer two but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let not man separate” (Matthew 19:4-6 NKJV). In endorsing the Creation in Genesis Chapters 1 and 2, Jesus taught: (1) Creation, not Evolution, started our world; (2) God created only two sexes, “male and female;” (3) everyone born must have had a “father and mother;” (4) God only joins together “a man” and “his wife;” (5) no human law or decree has ever, or can ever change this! “Marriage” is not in the U.S. Constitution, but is in the Bible!

This is Johnny Polk, with “Words of Wisdom” brought to you by the Oneida church of Christ.

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(#52) The Proverbs of Solomon 12:4-How To Crown A Husband

Since God Created humans, only God can provide specific understanding of human behavior. God gave Solomon Divine Wisdom (1 Kings Chapters 3 and 10) to explain what and why behavior is as it is, and Proverbs 10:1-24:34 are randomly written, as if they were Solomon’s judgments about individual cases brought to him, or simply God-given explanations about life. New Testament passages may help see the continuation of Wisdom offered through Jesus Christ.

Proverbs 12:4: “An excellent wife is the crown of her husband, But she who causes shame is like rottenness in his bones.”

“Excellent” shows this word means more than simply “virtuous, pure,” but also spirited, spiritual, conscientious, devoted to her husband and children, intelligent, ingenious. No clearer picture is drawn of such a woman than in Proverbs 31:10-31, which will be dealt with in detail in another study. When God made man, “the LORD God said, ‘It is not good that man should be alone; I will make him a helper comparable to him’” (Genesis 2:18). The entire created world cannot satisfy the loneliness a man was designed to have. To meet this innate need, God made woman, and Solomon describes her as a crowning addition to the man. There is no question to believers in God’s Word that: “He who finds a wife finds a good thing, And obtains favor from the LORD” (Proverbs 18:22). Men should be looking to find “a wife,” not “women” in general! Men who disrespect the marriage commitment are men who disrespect women, and thus disrespect God! A “wife” (not any and every woman!) is “favor (grace) from the LORD,” and a “good thing” for a husband! Men who reject marriage with a wife are rejecting the grace of God! It is no wonder, then, that “Marriage is honorable among all, and the bed undefiled; but fornicators and adulterers God will judge” (Hebrews 13:4). It is sin to have physically intimate relationships outside of marriage, and God will hold all accountable who engage in the practice without the purity of a marriage. Forbidding marriage (celibacy) or ignoring marriage (playboy) are both observed and condemned by God. There is no substitute for “an excellent wife,” for she shows her husband is richly blessed by God more than any other inheritance a man could have. “Houses and riches are an inheritance from fathers, But a prudent wife is from the LORD” (Proverbs 19:14).

“Rottenness in his bones” describes an untreatable condition, for it has sunk so deep into a man, it may never be cured. Spiritually speaking, “envy is rottenness to the bones” (Proverbs 14:30), which means it takes away strength to faithfully stand. If a “good wife” is a “good thing,” then a “bad wife” is a “bad thing.” Young men should not on the prowl for animal gratification, but should be searching for “an excellent wife” with strength of character and spiritual conviction.

All Scriptures and comments are based upon the New King James Version, unless otherwise noted.

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The Husband is Head

In the “spirit of this world” there is a challenge the Lord’s people have with regard to the Lord’s will concerning the family. In today’s environment, the husband is not the head of the house, but merely a co-authority alongside his wife. The male and female were created (and are still) equal in the Lord’s eyes (Genesis 1:26; 2:18), but with that declaration of the Lord’s, there is also the declaration concerning who the leader in the family is (1 Corinthians 11:3).

When the Lord brought the male and female together that He created, He brought two equals and made them into one whole (Genesis 2:23-24). Though both the male and female are equals, they were given different roles within the family structure. Paul made this plain in his writings to the church at Ephesus and to Timothy (also at Ephesus). To the church he wrote, the husband is the head of his wife like Christ is the head of the church. The very use of the word head in this context indicates authority. Lest we misunderstand what that authority entails, consider the remainder of the chapter (Ephesians 5:22-33).

The word head, indicating authority, is not dictatorial—not even close! It is authority based on love, and love always seeks that which is best for the other person. Christ is the savior of the body, and the husband is to seek to save (or protect) his wife from the outside harm that will surely come to her if he fails to make the right choices in leading his family (poor choices are made by both the male and female in any and all relationships). This is what love does.

The insecure (and spiritually weak) husband who demands that his wife must obey him, this is a man who is operating, not from love, but spiritual infirmity. What kind of spirit of a man will operate in such a way as this? Only one who is insecure and weak of spirit! Someone might object to this sentiment with, “Does not the Scripture say she must obey him in all things”? It does say this with regard to children (Colossians 3:20), but with regard to the wife it does not say this, and the wife is not a child!

In Titus 2:5, Paul exhorts the older women to teach the younger women to be obedient to their husbands (Titus 2:5). Given what we know of God’s love and Jesus’ example, what do you think is in mind? Dictatorial, of course! Hardly. What is in view is a godly disposition that seeks to honor God in one’s life (Titus 2:1-5). A wife who understands her God-ordained role contributes, mightily, to the strength of her family. The husband who understands his God-ordained role leads his family on the path already blazed by the Lord Jesus.

To wrap up this thought, let us reflect (and be reminded) on the work of love. Love seeks that which is best for the other person. With regard to salvation, Jesus sought our best interest (John 3:16; Luke 19:10). With regard to personal relations, man is to love God with all of his being (which means he honors God by obeying Him), and he is to love his neighbor as himself (which means he will seek that which is best for him—as he would himself).

Husbands, love your wives; if God brought you two together, then she is the best thing that has happened to you in personal relations. Wives, love your husbands; if God brought you two together, then not only is he the best thing that happened to you in personal relations, but his example and leadership is of such a quality that he will do you good all of your days. RT

#home, #husband, #leadership, #marriage, #roles, #wife


Psalm 128 What’s In It For Me?

There is uncertainty regarding the author, time, or circumstances of these Psalms, but it is apparent Psalms 120-134 work together, and are called the “Songs of Degrees,” and sometimes “Songs of Ascension.”

Verses 1-4 show wonderful blessings of a family that fears God;

Verses 5-6 show their hope for the future.

Verses 1-4: (Verse 1) The rule is “everyone who fears the LORD” is “blessed” (happy, contented), regardless of skin, salary, or social status. “Blessed are those whose lawless deeds are forgiven, And whose sins are covered; Blessed is the man to whom the LORD shall not impute sin” (Romans 4:7-8). “The memory of the righteous is blessed, But the name of the wicked will rot” (Proverbs 10:7).  “Though a sinner does evil a hundred times, and his days are prolonged, yet I surely know that it will be well with those who fear God, who fear before Him” (Ecclesiastes 8:12). Everyone who “fears God” walks in His ways. “Let us hear the conclusion of the whole matter: Fear God and keep His commandments, For this is man’s all” (Ecclesiastes 12:13). (Verse 2) Honest work is rewarding, supporting, and satisfying. “The sleep of a laboring man is sweet, Whether he eats little or much; But the abundance of the rich will not permit him to sleep” (Ecclesiastes 5:12). “He who is slothful in his work Is a brother to him who is a great destroyer” (Proverbs 18:9). Those who live on government give-aways never know the true wealth of health that comes to those who earn their rewards. It is repeated of those who “will not work, neither shall he eat” (2 Thessalonians 3:10). (Verse 3) “A fruitful vine” is one that produces something good, and is a good description of a good wife. She is considered the “very heart of your house.” It is in husbands best interest to “to love their own wives as their own bodies; he who loves his wife loves himself” (Ephesians 5:28).  “An excellent wife is the crown of her husband, But she who causes shame is like rottenness in his bones” (Proverbs 12:4). “Olive plants” produce very useful oil, capable of many applications, so  children add many moments of pleasure and happiness. A man whose wife and children sit around his table cannot be more satisfied. (Verse 4) A home that “fears God” cannot be improved upon for sheer joy.

Verses 5-6: (Verse 5) For Israelites under Moses, “Zion” was the Temple Mount in Jerusalem, the center of their worship, and from which their blessings originated. When individuals “fear God” and “walk in His ways,” it benefits their city for all of their lives. Obeying God is always good for our country, city, community. (Verse 6) Those who serve God not only are blessed themselves, and their families, and their neighbors, but into the next generations, “children’s children.”

All Scriptures and comments are based upon the New King James Version, unless otherwise noted.

#bible-study, #book-of-psalms, #children, #daily-bible-reading, #family, #fears-the-lord, #god, #marriage, #obedience, #wife

Husbands, which one is it?

All right you fellas with a ring on “that” finger, I have some questions for you.

Do you still remember what it was like when you were just dating your wife? Do you still remember what it was like to do random things for her that she didn’t expect?

What’s it like today compared to the past? Which one is it? Is it still those sweet nothings from time to time – or has it turned into nothing sweet?

“Husbands, love your wives and do not be bitter toward them.” (Colossians 3:19, NKJV)

#husband, #marriage, #wife

A Virtuous Woman

According to commentators who are better versed in the Old Testament than I, Proverbs 31:10 is an acrostic poem with an interesting question as an introduction.

Who can find a virtuous woman? Who can find a wife of noble character, one translation says. The question implies the search is either impossible or very difficult, which is probably one reason why preachers begin wedding ceremonies by saying that marriage “should not be entered into unadvisedly or lightly.”

The passage has two basic components. One is how the inspired word of God characterizes a good wife, and the other is how she is praised for her good works and fear of the Lord.

A wife of noble character is of more value than jewels. She constantly works and produces good things for her husband, her family and the poor. Her skill is known by many. Since she is never idle, she reaps the praise of her family and her grateful husband.

Her reverent respect for God is a hallmark of her noble character. Everything she does is rooted in her love for God. Her works are a reflection of her loving and obedient heart.

Why do her children rise and call her blessed? They so call her because all her life has been an example of holiness and purity. Her life has been an example of sacrificial love. Her children learn from this example and attain good, happy lives. They have come to learn lessons of God and obedience from her.

Not only is she to be praised, but her entire life has been an offering of praise to God. She is indeed more valuable than many jewels.

Certainly these words are inadequate to describe my blessed wife. For Judy.

#virtuous, #wife, #woman

On Thanksgiving day, my wife and I will …

On Thanksgiving day, my wife and I will visit the home of one of our members, who through her generosity, and the generosity of her three sisters will have plenty of food and fellowship.

#fellowship, #food, #generosity, #home, #member, #plenty, #sister, #visit, #wife

When do my words go unheard? Usually whe…

When do my words go unheard? Usually when my wife doesn’t want to listen to any instructions that I’ve given her, and goes ahead and does what she wants to do anyway. 🙂

#instruction, #listen, #unheard, #wife, #words

No major plans for the 4th. Just a quite…

No major plans for the 4th. Just a quite, restful weekend with the family. I think wife and son are making homemade ice cream tomorrow (Saturday). I’ll be the supervisor in charge of eating! 🙂

#family, #homemade, #major, #plans, #quite, #restful, #son, #weekend, #wife

My Best Picture?

The best picture of me is the one not taken. 🙂 I’m afraid the Lord didn’t bless me with good looks. However, I do treasure the picture taken by an Olan Mills studio photographer of my wife and I approximately two years after we were married (1978 vintage).

#best, #bless, #looks, #married, #photographer, #picture, #treasure, #wife

No birthday rituals for me except for th…

No birthday rituals for me except for the wife’s birthday.

#birthday, #ritual, #wife

Individual Or Community Computer?

The computer we have in our house is mainly for my use. My wife is not technology minded at all.

#computer, #house, #minded, #technology, #wife

When Am I Grouchy?

Guess I’m most grouchy when my wife spends money on something that I believe is not a necessity but a want. We all have wants (I’d like to have a Mercedes :)), but what is really needed? That’s where the difficulty often comes in.

#difficult, #grouch, #money, #necessity, #need, #spend, #want, #wife

The question that made the biggest diffe…

The question that made the biggest difference to me? “Do you take this woman to be your lawfully wedded wife?”

#difference, #question, #wedded, #wife, #woman