Yesterday I was one the phone for about a half hour speaking with a couple (speaker phone) on how to repair their marriage. As is just about always the case I ask one question: “What is it that you want to do?” When I get an answer, I can go from there, and I have a good idea where to go. The advice I always give a Christian is for each to be honest with self. There can be no facade, for if there is, there will be no answer that results in a solution. Whether one is struggling in marriage, personal behavior, or something else, this is the approach I take in trying to help them help themselves to overcome.